Is Your Relationship Making You Miserable? 10 Signs It’s Time To Get Out!

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you start to get comfortable. Generally, that’s a good thing — it implies a security and sense of content that’s hard to come by. However, it can also mean excusing some really bad behavior and unhealthy habits as acceptable or even normal when they’re actually really destructive. If you’ve been feeling down for reasons you can’t quite put a finger on, here are 10 signs your relationship is making you miserable:

1. You no longer have your own interests and hobbies. When was the last time that you did something that you like doing? I’m not talking about something that you and your partner enjoy together; I mean a hobby that’s unique to you, whether it’s reading, crocheting, or marathoning The Real Housewives of New York City. Having this all-important time alone is crucial. If you fill up your free time with things he wants you to do while neglecting your own interests, you’re sure to be miserable.
2. He wants you to change… but he won’t. Any guy who tries to change you isn’t one who’s worthy of you. If he doesn’t love you as you are, he probably never will. He can try to tweak you here and there, but you’ll never be his perfect woman, nor should you try to be. If he’s desperate to mold you into something new while he stays the same, the relationship is doomed. Self-improvement is great; trying to improve other people when you haven’t dealt with your own shortcomings is messed up.
3. You can’t even remember when you last had sex. While sex is by no means the most important thing in a relationship, without it, your bond is likely to suffer. When you stop finding him desirable, there’s likely a deeper psychological reason for that. If the last time you had sex is but a distant, fading memory, perhaps you’ve become more like friends than lovers.
4. You don’t even cuddle now. Okay, so you don’t have sex now, but do you cuddle? If you’re not intimate in any sense of the word, it shows that there’s a real distance between the two of you. While you may try to tell yourself that you don’t need that kind of relationship, everybody needs a hug now and then. You’re no different.
5. Your friends tell you that you’ve changed. When you’re in a toxic, miserable relationship, it can affect your character in ways you may never imagine. Your friends and family will be the first ones to pick up on any subtle differences in your personality. If they’re telling you something’s up, they’re not just being negative Nancys for no reason — perhaps you have the problem.
6. Talking to him is no longer fun or even interesting. Your significant other should be your best friend. You should want to talk to them about everything in your life – from the tiny everyday things to major life changes. When he’s not the first person you call when something happens, you have to question why that is. Why is it that you’re tired of talking to this guy? Surely you haven’t run out of things to say?
7. Small things about him bug the hell out of you. It might be the way he bites his nails or how he always leaves the bathroom in a mess. If these small, otherwise insignificant things bug the hell out of you, it may be because your feelings are dwindling. When you’re loved up, you can overlook these things; in fact, you barely notice them. The moment your feelings change, these irritating habits will start to get you down.
8. You literally don’t know what you’d do without him. One of the main reasons that people stay in relationships that make them miserable is because they don’t know what else to do. They question who they will be without the relationship status, where they’ll go, and what they’ll do. If the only thing keeping you with him is the fear of leaving, you need to get over it. Sometimes when you face your fears, the results are something truly wonderful.
9. He doesn’t like your family — and he tells you so. Your partner should respect you and your family. That’s a given. When someone actively tries to tear you away from your core support (your closest family), things can quickly get out of hand. No guy should get between you and your loved ones. If he tries to, that could be the source of your pain and sorrow in the relationship.
10. You no longer feel like yourself. Ask yourself this: Do you still feel like you? While people change over time, no relationship should change someone so dramatically that they no longer feel like themselves. If you’re a ghost of the girl you once were, perhaps moving away from this relationship will help you reappear.