It’s amazing how much crap you can put up with when you’re afraid of being rude. Not only is it OK to not be polite, it’s fine to be a full-on bitch if someone’s aggressively giving you unwanted attention and won’t take the hint that you want to be left alone. You don’t have to endure anyone who’s making you uncomfortable, so go ahead and skip the niceties for these 9 reasons:
- Leaving the house is not an invitation for attention. Going out in the world doesn’t automatically mean that you have to let people talk to you. Your existence in public doesn’t mean you’re asking for attention, no matter where you are, what you’re wearing, or how much you’re drinking. It may seem rude to tell them to go away, but it’s even ruder for someone to feel entitled to harass you simply because you left your house.
- You can afford your own drinks. You don’t need help paying for your bar tab and you certainly don’t have to sit through a conversation with a guy just because he sent you a drink. You don’t have to feel bad about saying no when he didn’t feel bad about inserting themselves into your evening without even asking first.
- Cheesy pick up lines aren’t cute or charming. Your first instinct might be to think, “Aw, I feel bad. He’s trying.” And while he might be nervous or intimidated, I would hardly say reciting lines and clichés is trying. You’re under no obligation to listen to this crap, fake laugh, or make him feel better about his worthless material. Just because his pickup game sucks doesn’t mean you owe him a pity conversation.
- Late night booty texts are the worst. You absolutely have the green light to tell this person to GTFO, especially if he makes a habit of it. No one is allowed to pursue you so relentlessly that they disturb your sleep and your ability to fully function in the morning.
- You don’t need another penis pic. Shut it down! Unfortunately, being polite is a slippery slope that can lead to even more unsolicited penis pics coming your way. Still afraid of being rude? Now you’ll have to come up with a compliment for his penis that somehow doesn’t send the message that you’re DTF. It’s much simpler to just tell him to go away.
- You can handle being called names. So what if you’re insulted? You can handle it. If some moron insults you simply for stating some boundaries, does his opinion of you really matter? I don’t think so, and if anything, it proves that you made the right call in asking him to back off.
- No one’s entitled to your attention. I can’t emphasize this enough. Why would you be considered the bad guy for asserting your right to be left alone? You shouldn’t feel bad or feel afraid of being rude when the real problem is that someone feels they have the authority to demand access to you.
- Being polite can be misconstrued as “leading him on.” It’s actually so much easier to bite the bullet and say no way from the get go. The longer you drag out unnecessary niceties, the more he’ll think you’re interested. The problem isn’t going to solve itself. If he’s a good guy, he’ll respect you for being upfront and honest about being disinterested. It’s definitely the classy move to make.
- You could still end up get insulted. Even if you’re as nice as you possibly can be, at some point you’re still going to have to tell him that you’re not interesting in having sex, and there’s no guarantee he will reciprocate the politeness. You might get a lashing out of rejection rage, and now what did you waste all this time and energy avoiding being rude for?