It’s so frustrating! You don’t hear from a guy for days then decide to make contact. When you do, he’s super charming and flirtatious, making you think that he’s definitely keen on you. But you can’t shake the doubts you feel: if he’s interested, then why doesn’t he ever initiate contact? Here are 14 possible reasons—and “his thumbs are broken” isn’t one of them.
He likes to talk to you, but…
The conversation is awesome and it always feels good for him. But he just doesn’t see relationship potential beyond your phone screens. So, he’s writing you down as “great for conversation” and leaving it at that. Dead-end.
He’s seeing what he can get out of the situation.
There’s definitely a reason he’s letting you do all the work without cutting contact once and for all. He’s keeping you around so he can see what he can get from you at a later stage. It might be a date for a function or a booty call. But don’t expect him to ask you out on a real date! He would’ve done that by now if he was serious.
He enjoys flirting.
You know when he’s sick with the flu and really feeling crap, then you text him? He’s so keen to chat and flirt because it’s convenient for him to do so at that point. Same goes for when he’s horny. It’s all about his convenience, and not so much about his interest in you. That’s as short-lived as his orgasms.
He’s too polite to say what’s up.
He didn’t actually want to talk to you, but he’s too polite and too much of a coward to tell you that you’re wasting your time and he’s never going to date you. You’re not a priority in his life. You’re not the first person he thinks to text if there’s an emergency, but he doesn’t want to tell you.
He’s hoping you’ll get the hint eventually.
If he just keeps going along with the status quo and answering your texts, he’s hoping that soon you’ll realize he’s just not into dating in RL. But hey, he gets some female attention and funny dog memes that you send him in the meantime, so it’s all good for now.
He thinks this is what you want.
He’s not keen on making things progress, and since you’re always making contact, he assumes that you’re on the same page as him. You want to keep things casual, just like he does. Right? Hell no!
He’s sorting out his options.
You’re not the only woman he’s chatting to via text. Sorry, but he’s got five or six, and he’s not sure which one he wants to pursue something with. What total BS!
He already has a girlfriend.
He’s dating someone else and doesn’t want to end things with her. Still, he enjoys chatting to you every now and then. And, since you’re always the one initiating contact, it lessens his guilt over it. He can just pass you off as a friend. If his GF gets annoyed, he can always say that you’re the one texting him.
He just wants to be friends.
Girlfriend in his bed or not, the guy’s keen on nothing more than a friendship with you. He likes the idea of being able to catch up via text without having to leave the house. It’s sort of like being pen pals. What fun. Time to delete his number.
He’s playing hard to get.
He wants you to work for his attention (jerk), so he’s lying low and letting you do all the chasing. But don’t waste your time—he’ll never chase you back. Do you really want to waste texts on a guy who’s going to make a lazy AF boyfriend? Hell no.
He’s not sure about you.
He really does like you, but he’s not sure if he wants to enter a relationship with you or not. He doesn’t want to cut you out of his life in case he regrets it, though, so he keeps you warm on the sidelines in case he decides to pursue you at a later stage. Ugh, what a confused moron!
He’s not keen on making a real effort with you, so he’d rather just chill out and keep your dating status as “just talking.” Ugh. Can he get off the sofa, already?
He gets an ego boost from your texts.
He’s such a great conversationalist when you call or text because he enjoys getting your attention and compliments. It’s a nice ego boost for him, especially when he’s had a rough day at work or saw his ex with another guy and felt like gum under someone’s shoe. So basically, you’re just there to bolster his self-confidence. Great.
He wanted to fade you out.
He had terrible intentions to fade you out. That’s why he wasn’t initiating contact anymore. But then you got in touch and he started to feel really guilty for his actions, so he decided to give you mixed messages by chatting to you again as though nothing happened. You know what? That’s even worse than if you’d just let the jerk walk away. GTFO, dude!
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