Being cheated on messes you up. It stops you from seeing guys for who they are because you’re too busy looking for proof that he’ll betray you just like the last guy. While it’s impossible to see the future, there are some signs your boyfriend gives that prove he’s 100% loyal to you and he’ll never cheat (well, probably not).
- He doesn’t hide your relationship. Everyone knows he’s with you. You’re all over his social media and you’re always spending time with his friends and family. He’s not trying to hide you like a lot of cheaters do with their significant others. He’s open about his relationship, leaving no doubt in anyone’s mind that he’s currently coupled up.
- He’s never cheated before. Listen to the way he talks about his past relationships. Has he ever mentioned any overlap between dates? Now consider the way he started talking to you. Was he super single when you two met or was he in a situationship kind of thing? Once a cheater, always a cheater, no matter how “serious” his cheating was. However, if he’s never betrayed a partner before, why would he start now?
- He doesn’t keep you waiting. He doesn’t wait hours to respond to your text. He doesn’t keep you waiting on the edge of your seat for a phone call either. He calls when he says he’s going to call and he shows up when he says he’s going to be there. No matter what’s going on in his life, he doesn’t disappoint you.
- He doesn’t hide his phone from you. If his phone rings and you’re closest to it, he’ll ask you to look and see who it is. Sound familiar? A guy who’s cheating or even thinking about cheating is going to keep his phone to himself. He’s not going to leave it on the kitchen table for the world—specifically you—to see who’s hitting him up.
- He doesn’t talk about cheating. Obviously, if he were cheating he wouldn’t discuss it with you, but he might discuss it with his friends. Trust me when I say that information would get around to you. Whether they’d mean to or not, his friends would spill the beans. After all, “Two can keep a secret if one of them is dead.” (You’re welcome for the Pretty Little Liars reference.)
- His friends aren’t cheaters. None of his friends are a-holes. Seriously, you like every single one of his boys. OK, maybe one of them can be sort of annoying, but the group as a whole is solid. They all care and respect women and most of them are either in a serious relationship or looking for a serious relationship.
- He doesn’t flirt in front of you. What we mean is, he doesn’t smile a little too hard at the waitress and he doesn’t laugh a little too loud when your low-key supermodel friend tells a silly joke. He’s only interested in flirting with you, in public and in private.
- He keeps you updated. You know where he is during the day, and not because you’re actively creeping on his Snapchat/Instagram looking for any sort of update. He actually takes time throughout the day to let you know what he’s doing and who he’s doing it with. If he’s at lunch with his co-workers, he tells you. If he’s leaving work early to meet up with some friends, he tells you. Do you see a common theme here? You’re an important part of his life, which means he keeps you in the loop.
- He’s close with his mom. Having a tight-knit relationship with his mom is very important because it shows how much he respects women. A guy who respects women isn’t a guy who’s going to have casual sex with someone when he’s in a committed and exclusive relationship. Fact!
- He leaves sketchy situations. He’s not a follower and you’ve never seen him give in to peer pressure. In your experience, he doesn’t go places he doesn’t want to go and he has no problem leaving if he starts to feel uncomfortable and/or bored. That means he’ll have no issue leaving a party if a drunk woman starts hitting on him. That’s what you need a guy!
- He’s completely sincere. He’s honest. He doesn’t always tell you what you want to hear; he tells you what he’s thinking even when it’s difficult. That doesn’t mean he calls you out for wearing a dress that’s not flattering, but he will call you out for being obnoxious. Needless to say, he’s not someone who would cheat. If he wanted to explore other people, he’d just end the relationship first.
- He doesn’t keep secrets. He’s not a man of mystery. Regardless of how long you two have been together, he’s never given you a reason to doubt him or his intentions. If you ask him a question, he answers without any sort of hesitation. Your gut tells you that he’s trustworthy and his actions back up that theory. Now you just have to trust yourself and believe that he’s not going to cheat.