Signs He Wants To Date You, Not Just Hook Up With You

All the flirting is starting to pay off and you’re having a great conversation. Now the big question: Does he want to date you or just hook up? Sometimes it’s hard to see the signs he wants to make things a bit more serious and take your relationship to… well, any level. Give it a little time and it’s not really that hard. Guys tend to make their intentions fairly obvious with their actions. Don’t expect him to just flat out say what he wants. In that area, guys are just as confusing as women. If you really want to know how you can tell if you’re being upgraded, I’m here to help.

He calls or texts often. As long as those calls and texts aren’t late night booty calls, it’s a good sign when he can’t seem to get enough of you. This means he really wants to get to know you and not just know your body. He may not call you every single day, but he will try to contact you at least several days a week. After all, he wants to date you, not drive you away. When you start talking every day, you’ve definitely got a potential relationship on your hands.

He wants to know more about you. A guy isn’t going to waste his time learning what your interests are if he just thinks of you as an occasional hookup. If he’s interested in dating you, he’s going to ask you questions, such as what you love to do in your spare time, what foods you like and don’t like, what your favorite music is, and even what you do for a living. These are all questions that help him learn more about you and give him clues on how to plan better dates.

You’re the only girl he’s interested in. Guys tend to be more single-minded when it comes to dating. They put all their effort into getting to know you and making sure you only notice them. If he’s constantly checking out other women or he talks about his other hookups, he’s not ready to date you. If you’re the only girl he’s really paying attention to, that’s a pretty good sign.

He’s waiting to make a move. Sometimes you get that immediate physical connection, but a guy who really wants to date you will wait before he makes any serious moves. Guys wanting a hookup try to make a move as quickly as possible. Waiting lets you know he respects you as a possible girlfriend. Patience is a great sign.

He’s tired of casual dating. This is one of the more obvious signs he wants to date you. Instead of trying to be subtle about he, he’s letting you know up front he wants something more serious in his life and not just casual hookups. This is great news. Not only does he know what he wants, he’s not afraid to say it.

He wants you to meet his friends. Guys love to introduce their new girlfriends to their friends. If he’s already talking about wanting to organize a group hangout session or he hints at a double date, odds are good that he’s interested in more than hooking up. Hookups rarely merit meeting the friends unless it’s by accident.

He seems less confident. This might not seem like a great sign, but it actually is. That little bit of shyness shows he cares about what you think. Guys wanting to hook up tend to be more confident and kind of cocky. They really don’t care what you think as long as you want to go back to his place. It’s really cute when he’s not quite as sure of himself, but still puts himself out there on the off chance you might agree to a date.

You go on real dates. Has he taken you out in public and spent time talking to you? Guys aren’t going to go overboard when it comes to hooking up. At best, he’ll call you to come over and have pizza delivered. When he wants to date you, he’s eager to impress you. This means going to a restaurant or even cooking you a romantic dinner at his place. It should be obvious, but real dates do mean you’re dating.

He loves simple PDA. You’d think a guy that wants to hook up would be all over you in public. The problem is, he doesn’t want other women thinking the two of you are an item. A guy that wants to date you doesn’t mind holding your hand, kissing you, hugging you and making it very obvious that he only has eyes for you. Think about those cutesy couples that first start dating that can’t keep their hands off each other – it’s a blatant sign they’re dating.

He shares something personal. One of the ways a guy puts himself out there is by sharing something personal. It could be his biggest fear or an embarrassing anecdote from his childhood. The idea is to give you a look inside his life so you’ll do the same. The more you know about him, the more likely it is you’re dating.

He doesn’t ignore you. Nothing’s more annoying than assuming you’re dating a guy only to have him ignore you. You have to wait hours or even days before he calls you back. His only texts are quick and meaningless, such as “hi” or “what’s up.” You try to bring up going out together, but he’s always busy unless he wants you to come over. The more interested a guy is, the more likely he wants to date you.

The signs really aren’t that hard to see once you know what to look for. Most importantly, trust your instincts, ladies. If it doesn’t feel right, ask him what he wants so you don’t waste your time.

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