10 Signs He’ll Cheat On You If You Get Together, According To A Guy

If only there was a way to know that a guy was going to cheat on you before you let yourself get too invested, right? Well, you kinda can. While it’s not entirely foolproof, there are some signs that he’ll be unfaithful if you actually end up in a relationship with him. If any of these things are happening in those early days, it doesn’t bode well.

  1. He avoids talking about past relationships. For the record, not talking about your past relationships doesn’t necessarily mean a guy has cheated in the past. But there’s surely a reason why he doesn’t want to discuss his previous partners. One potential reason is that he was unfaithful and is embarrassed to admit it. For most guys, if they cheated in the past, you can’t rule out them doing it again in the future.
  2. He has no contact with his exes. I know there are probably some exceptions, but everyone should have at least one ex who’s now just a friend. If not friends, they should at least be on civil enough terms. It’s a little unusual for a person to have no contact whatsoever with any of their exes. Usually, this means things ended badly, perhaps because of infidelity. This may not hold true all the time, but it’s possible.
  3. He admits to being the jealous type. Oftentimes, guys who exhibit jealousy tend to be a little more unpredictable. If he feels jealous, he may want to do something that makes you jealous. Needless to say, cheating is probably the biggest and most obvious way to do this.
  4. He’s the “passionate” type. It’s easy to fall for a guy who’s passionate and is in touch with his emotions, but men like this usually follow their hearts more than their heads. That makes this one of the biggest signs he’ll cheat on you. If they meet someone new who they’re attracted to, they usually go for it, forgetting the fact that they’re already in a committed relationship. This doesn’t mean you should stay away from passionate men, but you should know that they might be the cheating type.
  5. He’s narcissistic. You should be able to pick up on the fact that a guy is narcissistic or an ego-maniac soon after meeting him. Self-absorbed men like this are always candidates for cheating in relationships because they’re usually entitled and feel like rules don’t apply to them. In other words, they cheat because they think they can get away with it and they show little remorse when they do so.
  6. He keeps his phone close. Serial cheaters are used to keeping their phones close to them. Even when you first meet someone, you can tell when they go out of their way to keep their device hidden and secretive. This is an obvious sign that he’s got secrets. More times than not, those secrets include seeing multiple women at the same time and cheating on their partners.
  7. He’s an adrenaline junkie. To be fair, this is painting with a broad brush. However, guys who like taking risks or thrive on adrenaline are usually more likely to cheat. They know this behavior is wrong deep down, but since it gives them a rush, they go ahead and do it anyway.
  8. He doesn’t like answering questions. If you meet a guy who’s bothered by answering too many questions, you’d better run. The people who don’t like answering questions are people with something to hide. This definitely applies to men who are serial cheaters. Even if you ask innocuous questions, a guy who’s prone to being unfaithful won’t like being quizzed. You should always be suspicious of a guy who accuses you of “prying” or “asking too many questions” when you first meet. They don’t want to be too open now so it’ll be easier to hide their infidelity later.
  9. He’s a “smooth operator.” Most guys don’t cheat on their partners if they’re not something of a ladies’ man. If a guy can smooth talk his way into your good graces quickly, he’s a potential cheater. Obviously, if he can do it to you, he can do it with other women as well. This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s the type of guy who will step out on you. However, it does mean he’s capable of quickly finding someone else.
  10. He doesn’t seem like a feminist. Admittedly, this is an odd trait to look for in a man right off the bat, but I think we can all agree that a guy giving out any kind of misogynistic vibes is a no-go. If you sense that a guy doesn’t respect women or view them as being equal to men, it’s a safe bet that he’s not above cheating on his girlfriends.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.