How To Tell If A Guy Will Be Bad In Bed Before You’ve Done The Deed

You don’t have to sleep with someone in order to find out how great he is beneath the sheets. You can figure it out before you take your clothes off by examining his behavior during dates. After all, the way he acts out in public won’t be all that different from the way he’ll act in the privacy of your bedroom. That means you can avoid making a big mistake by looking for warning signs that suggest he’s bound to be a bad lover.

  1. He doesn’t listen when you speak. If he can’t keep focused on a simple conversation during dinner, then how is he going to notice the hints you give him in the bedroom? A good listener will pay attention to your trembles and moans to see what makes you tick, but a bad listener won’t have any idea what you want in bed. Even if you spell it out for him, he might not listen.
  2. He’s a horrible kisser. If he’s bad when it comes to kissing, then he’s probably going to be just as bad in the bedroom. You can learn a lot about a man’s technique by watching what he does with his lips. So if your first kiss didn’t feel magical, you probably don’t want to take things to the next step.
  3. He drinks way too much. If he’s always drunk or high, then he’s not going to be able to perform well in the bedroom. He might even have trouble getting it up, which means you won’t be having sex at all. Even if you do, no one wants to taste alcohol on their lover’s lips.
  4. He has bad hygiene. If his hair always looks greasy and his body always smells pungent, then it’s a bad sign. If he doesn’t take care of the pieces of his appearance that everyone can see, it’s doubtful that he takes care of the areas you’ll be dealing with during sex.
  5. He rushes through life. If he rushes through dinner and rushes through traffic, then he’s probably going to speed through foreplay as well. Sex is best when it’s nice and slow, so if he can’t sit back and enjoy the moment, then you shouldn’t expect intercourse to last for more than a few minutes.
  6. He’s a couch potato. If your man refuses to take the stairs instead of the elevator and hasn’t hit the gym in a decade, then he probably won’t be able to last long in the bedroom. His low stamina means that you’re going to be stuck doing all of the hard work. You need to pick up his slack.
  7. He only talks about himself. If every conversation centers around him, and he never asks about your life, then he’s probably going to act similarly in the bedroom. That means he’ll be happy to let you go down on him, but he won’t offer to go down on you. As long as he gets what he wants, he’ll be satisfied.
  8. He brags about his sex life. If a man constantly brags about how amazing he is in the bedroom, he’s probably not that great. If he was, then he wouldn’t feel the need to overcompensate by telling everyone about his conquests. Besides, do you really want to have sex with someone who will give details to his friends in the morning?
  9. He sticks to a set routine. Spontaneity can keep your sex life spicy. If he refuses to try anything new, and always wants to have dinner at the same restaurant at the same time each week, he probably won’t be versatile in the bedroom. You need to be with someone who isn’t afraid to experiment.
  10. He doesn’t make you feel sexy. Sex feels amazing when you’re both dying to touch each other. However, if he doesn’t seem like he’s all that attracted to you, then your experience isn’t going to be as exciting. If you feel like he’s sleeping with you just to do it, and not because he’s crazy about you, then you’re going to wonder if you’re just being used.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.