We all go through tough times every now and then, but there are some people whose lives suck so much that it’s clear to everyone around them that they’re very, very unhappy. Want to know if you’ve come across someone like this? Keep your eyes peeled for these signs.
1. They look tired every time you see them.
Everyone has days when they’re drained — they didn’t sleep well, they’re sick, etc. — but if you know someone whose normal mode is “victim of sleep deprivation torture experiment,” it’s a pretty clear sign their life sucks. They obviously have a lot going on or too much on their mind so they can’t get any proper rest.
2. Literally nothing seems to faze them.
This is a weird one but it makes sense if you think about it. If something terrible is happening and they have no reaction to it or seem to think it’s par for the course, it’s clear this person has been through some STUFF in life and has just kinda gotten used to it. Negativity and trauma have been so normalized in their life that they can’t even muster shock or outrage over it — it is what it is, basically.
3. They get way too invested in office parties/events.
This is a huge sign someone’s life sucks. You know exactly the kind of person I mean – the office busybody who’s in everyone’s business and who takes everything way too seriously. God forbid you go to the bathroom for longer than five minutes, they’re staring at the clock and considering whether they should turn you into HR. They also happen to be the type of person who gets WAY too into office parties. They take over planning and get irate if things don’t go exactly according to their plan. It’s the event of the year for them, and that’s… actually kinda sad.
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5. They spend a lot of time talking crap about other people.
If you want to know if someone’s miserable and has a depressing life, listen out for how much gossiping they do. The more someone talks badly about the people around them — bonus points for trying to get others on side/convince them to feel the same — the more their life clearly sucks. If they were happy with where they were, they would be focused on that rather than on what everyone else is doing.
6. They don’t get excited to go home from work or find excuses to work longer/more.
It doesn’t matter how much you love your job — there’s nothing better than leaving work at the end of the day and getting out to enjoy your actual life. However, the person who’s always finding excuses to stay late or coming on their days off clearly has a life that sucks. They have nothing to fill their time with outside of work and/or they define themselves by their job, and that’s a shame. You are not your job!
7. They’re always misdirecting their anger.
You haven’t even done anything to them but they’re always shouting, losing their temper, or acting like you’re the most annoying person in the world. They’re always mad about everything, even stuff that no one else seems to care about, which is a clear indicator that they have anger issues stemming from something else in their life. There’s obviously a reason they’re always so wound up, and it has nothing to do with the actual things they’re losing it over.
8. They don’t care about stuff they used to love.
This is one of the most obvious signs someone’s life sucks even if it never used to before. Maybe they used to be really passionate about hiking or anime or whatever else and these days, they just don’t care about the stuff they used to love — or anything else, for that matter. They could be battling mental health issues that are temporary at best, or they could be in a bad place in life as a whole. Don’t be afraid to reach out and offer a bit of support here.
9. They’re stubbornly independent to an extreme degree.
You wouldn’t necessarily assume this is a terrible thing, but when someone is so independent that they literally refuse to accept help for anything, even jobs that aren’t meant for one person, it’s clear they’ve become this way since they’ve never been lucky enough to have support in their lives before. As a result, they’ve become so self-sufficient that they wouldn’t know what help was if it slapped them in the face.
10. They have extreme reactions to even the most minor inconvenience.
The milk in the fridge is starting to smell slightly off and they wanted it for their morning coffee. That sucks, but to them, it’s as if World World III has just broken out. A bit of perspective and emotional maturity allows most adults to take things in their stride and not overreact to very minor things and NBD in the grand scheme of things. If someone can’t do that, it’s probably because their life sucks and they’re in a constant state of being miserable.
11. They talk about really serious, traumatizing things very nonchalantly.
Similar to not being fazed by anything, someone whose life sucks probably won’t think twice about talking about very serious topics with an air of indifference. They discuss everything from death to disease and other tragedies with complete and utter nonchalance to the point that it’s baffling to everyone around them. This is, again, likely because they’ve been through that much of it that they’ve compartmentalized their emotions.
12. You can’t remember the last time you saw them laugh.
This one is really sad. If someone can’t even find it in them to laugh at silly things or have a good chuckle at a corny joke, they’re obviously not doing ever well. Sure, some people are just more serious in nature, but everyone cracks a smile every now and again. If you think of this person and literally can’t remember the last time you saw them with a happy expression on their face, it’s not good news.
13. They don’t feel like they deserve any nice things that happen to them.
There’s no way you can be happy in life if you have the constant feeling that you deserve to be miserable and that everything good that comes your way is a fluke. They clearly lack self-worth and are battling imposter syndrome, which is why they’re like this. Either way, they’re probably self-destructive and really unhappy because their life sucks so much.
14. They live vicariously through TV, movies, or social media.
People who don’t have a lot going on in their lives (or who do have a lot going on but it’s not all that great) tend to bury their heads in the sand looking for any form of escape. For some people, this ends up being alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling, or any number of other unhealthy habits. It could also end up with them becoming obsessed with fictional characters or people they don’t even know on social media. If they can talk about a “Love is Blind” contestant or their favorite influencer like they’re BFFs without thinking twice about it, there’s clearly something going on here.
15. They have no goals or plans for the future.
Everyone has things they want to achieve moving forward, no matter how small. If someone has no goals whatsoever or even anything they plan on doing, what are they really living for? Their life clearly sucks to the point that they don’t even feel like they have anything to look forward to.
16. Pretty much every conversation they have consists of complaints.
We all like a good whining session every now and again, but if all this person does is complain about things big and small, they’re probably very unpleasant and difficult to be around. Their life is so bad that they can’t find anything to be grateful for or to be happy about, that’s a big ol’ yikes.
17. They go out of their way to brag about how amazing their life is on social media.
It goes without saying that the more people need to brag about how great their life is, the more their life actually sucks. People who are legitimately happy and fulfilled don’t need to talk about it online 24/7 — they’re too busy living it. The pressure to create the perception of the perfect existence is intense, but those who are in a good place don’t feel the need to bow to it.
