Step Away From The Phone — 11 Times You Should Ignore His Texts

You don’t always have to respond to his texts — especially since there have been more than a few instances when he hasn’t responded to yours, right? Whether he’s someone you’re casually seeing, slightly interested in, or a guy you only entertain when the mood strikes you, don’t feel like you have to text him back the second after you get his message. Sometimes it’s perfectly acceptable to ignore his texts altogether — and in fact, sometimes you’re way better off doing so.

  1. When he’s drunk texting you Drunk words equal sober thoughts, right? Sure. You might think it’s telling (in a good way) that he’s reaching out to you when he’s completely hammered. Maybe it would be if he hit you up when he was sober, but that’s rarely the case. You’re only own his heart when he’s five fireball shots in — not cool.
  2. When you haven’t heard from in weeks You haven’t heard from him in a hot minute and now here he is, hitting you with that, “Hey babe.” *eye roll* The fact that he’s texting you as if no time has passed is insulting. He thinks he can come in and out of your life whenever he chooses. False.
  3. When the text reads, “What are you wearing?” You know full well where the conversation will inevitably go, don’t you? He’s asking about your wardrobe because he’s hoping you’ll give him all the details — the color of your underwear, if you’re wearing underwear, bra size, etc. etc. His mind is in the gutter, and unless you’re in the mood for sexting, go ahead and ignore that text.
  4. When he didn’t respond to your last several texts He didn’t respond to the text you sent last week, the Instagram you shared a few days ago, or the Snapchat you sent yesterday… and yet he has the audacity to text you. WTF? He really expects you to respond to him after he’s so blatantly ignored you for the last week? You’re not a faucet that he can turn on and off at his convenience, so don’t give him the ego boost he’s looking for by responding to his message.
  5. When he’s already in a relationship He’s dating someone and it’s not a secret. You know it and he knows you know it, but he still feels the need to text you. He’s not saying anything sexual or asking to meet up — not yet, anyway — but you know he’ll get flirty (especially if he’s had a few drinks). Instead of partaking in a twisted love triangle… DON’T!
  6. When he ignored you the night before You saw him at the bar last night and he was dancing with another girl. No big deal. But, when you went up to say hi, he acted like he didn’t know who you were. Rude. Now he’s texting you saying, “It was great to see you last night.” Was it? Was it really? He didn’t act like it was great, he acted like your presence was an inconvenience. If he can’t talk to you in public, there’s no reason to text him in private.
  7. When it’s late at night He hasn’t talked to you in a while and the one time he chooses to reach out is at midnight. This is a big old NOPE. He’s either looking for a booty call or he’s LOOKING FOR A BOOTY CALL. Only two options.
  8. When you’re having a girls’ night If you’re out with your friends, focus on them — not the guy who just texted you. It’s important to really be in the moment! Your life and time shouldn’t revolve around him. He can wait. Don’t be the chick who’s staring at her phone all throughout lunch or frantically trying to figure out how to respond to a text while everyone else is dancing at the club.
  9. When you’re drunk You’ve been drinking, so you’re not really in your right mind. That’s great — you do you! — but it also means this isn’t the time to talk to anyone besides your Uber driver and the girl holding your hair back while you vomit into the toilet.
  10. When you’re bored and lonely Maybe your ex (not him) just broke up with you, or maybe you just found out your crush (not him) is in a relationship. Whatever it is that happened, it’s got you in a lonely mood and you’re desperate for some validation. This is when you should really ignore his text! You don’t want to text someone just because you’re bored and lonely. Trust me, nothing good will come of that.
  11. When you just don’t want to Newsflash: You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. If you don’t want to respond, regardless of the reason, you don’t have to. Don’t feel guilty about ignoring him, especially if he’s a player — he doesn’t deserve your text back. And if he’s a good guy, he’ll text you again another time. Maybe you’ll want to respond then… or maybe not.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.