The Struggles Of Being A Woman Who’s Too Open About Her Emotions

The Struggles Of Being A Woman Who’s Too Open About Her Emotions ©iStock/Tassii

Women are always stereotyped as being too sensitive and over-emotional, and while that’s BS for many, for some of us, it’s actually pretty true. We don’t mean to be super intense about expressing our feelings, we just can’t help it, and sometimes life gets a bit weird because of it.

  1. People think we’re either crazy or annoying. We all have problems to share, but not everyone wants to hear them. We tend to vent to anyone who will listen about our thoughts, feelings and experiences, and unfortunately, some people really aren’t into it.
  2. We disclose too much too soon. We get a tad bit too comfortable with telling our entire life story and it can come off as a bit too much too soon. We don’t mean to be so open, but we like being upfront about who we are, and that intensity can be a bit scary for some people.
  3. We sometimes screw ourselves over. There are certain areas in our lives where we shouldn’t be so quick to open up, such as in a work environment or when we just start dating someone new. There are some lines that shouldn’t be crossed until we truly feel safe to share specific emotions. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always turn out that way.
  4. Guys easily lose interestBeing too open can drive some guys away and make them lose interest. We don’t leave much room for mystery if we tell too much, but we can’t help but spill our guts when we really like a guy. It’s a sign that we feel good about where things are going, but he might not see it that way.
  5. Everyone knows our secrets, but we don’t know anyone else’s. Just because we’re open to sharing how you feel doesn’t mean that other people are willing to do the same. We don’t want to end up being the person who everyone knows everything about, so we try to keep some things to ourselves, which is easier said than done.
  6. It makes us seem weak. We all have bad days and get really upset or angry, and we know that doesn’t mean we need to shout it to the whole world. If we constantly go around telling everyone when we’re upset or angry, it can make it seem like that’s the way we always are. We know we need to be strong and learn how to control our emotions, but that doesn’t make doing it any easier.
  7. Not everyone can relate to what we’re going through. As humans, we feel the need to be able to connect to one another. The things is, not everyone has that ability (or the desire to do it). We expect people not only to be receptive to our emotions, but empathetic, as well, and we’re often disappointed when that’s not what we get.
  8. It might be too much for people to handle. We know we’re guilty of oversharing and we try not to do it, but sometimes we just can’t help ourselves. Of course, that freaks a lot of people out and costs us a lot of relationships, both romantic and platonic, from people who just can’t cope with so much intensity so soon. Ugh.
Lindsey is a Digital Advertising Professional and Freelance Writer based in New York City. In her spare time, she enjoys running, traveling, and drinking ridiculous amounts of coffee. Follow her on Twitter @lindseyruns