Texting is everything these days, for better or worse, which is why it’s so important to master not only the art of communicating via this medium but of interpreting what the person on the other end means by the words they type. Here are a few differences between the behaviors of a high-value man, who respects and values you, and those of a narcissist, who often manipulates and undermines.
1. Compliments That Feel Genuine vs. Overwhelming Praise
- High Value Man: Sends compliments that are thoughtful and specific, focusing on your personality or achievements.
- Narcissist: Often gives over-the-top compliments, focusing excessively on physical appearance or unrealistically idolizing you.
2. Asking About Your Day vs. Making Everything About Them
- High Value Man: Shows genuine interest in your day-to-day life and listens to your experiences.
- Narcissist: Frequently shifts the conversation back to themselves, showing little interest in your day or feelings.
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3. Respecting Boundaries vs. Ignoring Them
- High Value Man: Respects your time and space, understanding if you’re busy or need time alone.
- Narcissist: Often texts persistently or invasively, showing little regard for your personal boundaries or space.
4. Supportive Messages vs. Undermining Comments
- High Value Man: Offers support and encouragement, especially during challenging times.
- Narcissist: Might send texts that subtly undermine your confidence or achievements, positioning themselves as superior.
5. Apologizing Sincerely vs. Offering Empty Apologies
- High Value Man: When he makes a mistake, he apologizes sincerely and takes responsibility for his actions.
- Narcissist: Apologies, if offered, are often superficial and may include excuses, shifting blame onto others.
6. Planning Dates vs. Last-Minute Requests
- High Value Man: Plans dates and activities in advance, showing consideration for your schedule.
- Narcissist: Frequently makes last-minute requests or expects you to accommodate their schedule without notice.
7. Encouraging Independence vs. Seeking Control
- High Value Man: Encourages your independence and supports your personal goals.
- Narcissist: Tends to send messages that subtly try to control or manipulate, often discouraging your independence.
8. Open Communication vs. Playing Games
- High Value Man: Communicates openly and honestly, valuing clear and straightforward conversation.
- Narcissist: Often engages in mind games through texts, such as giving mixed signals or using silent treatment.
9. Sharing Personal Insights vs. Boasting
- High Value Man: Shares personal stories and insights, aiming for a deeper emotional connection.
- Narcissist: Frequently brags about achievements or possessions, aiming to impress rather than connect.
10. Respecting Your Opinions vs. Dismissing Them
- High Value Man: Shows respect for your opinions and engages in meaningful discussions.
- Narcissist: Often dismisses or belittles your opinions, insisting they are always right.
11. Expressing Interest in Your Hobbies vs. Ignoring Them
- High Value Man: Shows genuine curiosity and enthusiasm about your hobbies and interests.
- Narcissist: Rarely acknowledges or shows interest in your hobbies, often steering the conversation back to their own interests.
12. Recognizing Achievements vs. Minimizing Them
- High Value Man: Congratulates you on your successes and recognizes your achievements.
- Narcissist: Tends to downplay or ignore your successes, or compares them unfavorably to their own.
13. Valuing Your Time vs. Expecting Instant Replies
- High Value Man: Understands if you cannot respond immediately and values your time.
- Narcissist: Expects immediate responses and may become upset or accusatory if you don’t reply quickly.
14. Sharing Feelings vs. Concealing Emotions
- High Value Man: Comfortably shares feelings and emotions in a healthy way.
- Narcissist: Often conceals true emotions or uses emotional expressions manipulatively.
15. Encouraging Your Social Life vs. Discouraging It
- High Value Man: Encourages you to maintain a healthy social life outside of your relationship.
- Narcissist: May discourage your social interactions or express jealousy about your friends.
16. Healthy Humor vs. Sarcastic or Hurtful Jokes
- High Value Man: Uses humor that is inclusive and light-hearted, never at your expense.
- Narcissist: May use sarcastic or belittling humor, often disguised as ‘just a joke’.
17. Positive Reinforcement vs. Negative Criticism
- High Value Man: Offers positive reinforcement and constructive feedback.
- Narcissist: Often resorts to negative criticism or demeaning remarks under the guise of ‘helping’ you.
18. Discussing Future Plans vs. Avoiding Commitment
- High Value Man: Openly discusses future plans and includes you in his vision.
- Narcissist: Avoids discussions about the future or is vague and non-committal about plans involving you.
19. Admitting Mistakes vs. Deflecting Blame
- High Value Man: Admits and learns from mistakes, demonstrating personal growth.
- Narcissist: Often deflects blame, refuses to admit faults, or turns the blame onto others.
20. Equal Partnership vs. Dominating the Relationship
- High Value Man: Seeks an equal partnership, valuing mutual respect and decision-making.
- Narcissist: Tries to dominate the relationship, making decisions without considering your perspective.
