I’ll be honest in saying that I don’t really care whether or not people like me. I try to be kind and show respect to everyone I meet, but I also don’t take shit and I’ll call you out if you step out of line. Of course it’s nice to be thought well of, but not at the cost of being inauthentic or having to hide your true self. That being said, if you’re someone who does really care about how people perceive you, that’s okay too! There’s nothing wrong with that. Luckily, there’s one conversational hack that will make anyone like you in under a minute. Yes, really.
At this point in your life, you’re probably well-versed in the art of conversation. You know that it’s all about back and forth. You have to be willing to share about yourself while at the same time knowing when to stop and truly listen to what the other person is saying. You’re not going to make anyone like you if you’re always cutting them off or you only talk about yourself. Same goes for if you expect the other person to carry the entire conversation. It’s a fine balance worth striking.
It’s easy to make pretty much anyone like you
So, what’s the trick here? Simply having good conversational skills doesn’t necessarily mean your chat partner will like you. To accomplish this, you have to up the ante a bit and do something extra special. That’s why you need to find a way to get them to talk about something they’re proud of or that gives them an opportunity to show off a bit.
Think about it: We want to be around people who make us feel good about ourselves. It’s just human nature. Well, one of the easiest ways to make someone feel good about themself is by giving them a chance to shine. You do this by setting them up to win. You likely ask people about themselves, but you have to ask the right question to make this work. So, think about something in their life that they’re proud of, the adversity they overcame, or a major accomplishment they achieved. Ask them how they got there. You’d be shocked at just how happy they’ll be to share about their experience in great detail.
Can doing this really make literally anyone like you? You’d be shocked at how often the answer is yes. Make someone feel like a million bucks. Remind them of just how strong and capable they are and how far they’ve come. They’ll think, “Hey, this person is pretty great!”