You’re always up for grabbing lunch with him, you always reply to his texts, and you’ve been trying to flirt subtly for weeks. He’s responsive but you’re not exactly clear on his real feelings for you. Does he want to date you or would he prefer if you just stayed buds? Here are 14 signs that he sees you as a friend, not a girlfriend.
You’re his confidante.
One of the biggest signs that he’d prefer having you as his friend instead of a flame is that he confides in you about his life. You might think the fact that he’s opening up to you is a good thing, but there’s such a thing as TMI, especially in the early stages of getting to know someone. If he has no shame about telling you how he’s hit it and split it with some other women, for instance, he’s not trying to make a good first impression. He’s letting all his secrets hang out because he can’t threaten your relationship, which is totally platonic.
He looks scruffy around you.
A guy who likes you will want to show you that he takes care of himself because he wants to look sexy AF for you. If the guy’s showing up to your hangouts with a scruffy beard and looking like he’s been wearing the same t-shirt for days, he’s treating you as a friend. It’s as simple as that.
He doesn’t call it dating.
He’ll invite you out for pizza or drinks, but he never calls these outings “dates.” He’ll say you’re hanging out, perhaps, which is a far cry from dating. Sure, he could just be playing it cool, but chances are, he means exactly what he says. He doesn’t call it a date because he doesn’t consider it one.
He doesn’t schedule you into his life.
He doesn’t make plans to see you. He’s always spontaneous, probably using the excuse that he was driving through your ‘hood and thought of seeing you. Whatever. The guy was bored and thought it’d be good to have your company—that’s how it goes with friends. If he was serious about dating, he’d make plans ahead of time and show you that you’re a priority in his life.
You have long convos that never go anywhere.
You guys text a lot, which might make you think he’s super interested in you. Unfortunately, if those long conversations don’t enter relationship territory, like by talking to each other about your feelings or where you see things going, the texts are leading you nowhere.
He talks to you about his weekend.
He’ll call or text you to tell you all about his amazing weekend—he saw a cool live band, he went white-water rafting, and so on. It’s cool that he lets you in on his life, but not as much as it would be for him to invite you to those outings. What the hell? If he was into you, you’d be part of his Saturdays and Sundays.
You know all his friends really well.
It’s great when he suggests you meet his friends, but wait. It’s not a date if he’s always inviting you along with his group and you don’t feel like he treats you any differently than he treats them. It’s not a date, it’s just an outing with loads of friends, you being one of them.
He’s laid-back about your absences.
When you’re really busy and don’t get in touch with him for a few days, he doesn’t even flinch or ask you why you’ve been silent. When you’re around, he’s happy to chat with you, but when you’re not there, it’s like he hardly notices or cares. He’s way too much of a mellow friend to be anything more.
You never hang out for dinner.
You spend lots of time with the guy, but doing what? If you’re always going to clubs and pubs but never having a real dinner together in a candlelit restaurant, you have to wonder why. He’s avoiding date activities because he’d rather keep things on a casual, friendly level.
His house is a no-go zone.
He never invites you to his place. You’ve heard about it and maybe even looked up his address on Google Maps during a low moment, but he never suggests that you head back to his place after a night of dancing at the club. That’s really shady because it’s like he’s keeping you at arm’s length.
You’ve had sex but it didn’t jumpstart a relationship.
On the other hand, maybe you’ve seen his place many times, and specifically his bedroom. This FWB setup is just that: you’re friends and sometimes you please each other in the sack. If you’ve been sleeping with him for weeks and he still hasn’t said that he’d like to date you, he’s not going to.
He calls you “cute.”
Being called “cute” by a guy can be sweet, but it can also be a sign that he’s not interested in dating you. So how can you tell? Basically, if he’s calling you “cute” in a way that makes you feel like you’re his little sister, the guy’s not keen to date you. On the other hand, if he also calls you “hot” or “sexy,” he’s probably feeling you on a deeper level.
He makes it clear he’s enjoying the single life.
When you try to talk to him about relationships in general, he doesn’t give you any indication that he’s even looking for a relationship. Now, if the guy was interested in you, he certainly wouldn’t be going on and on about how much he loves being free and single.
He says the “f” word a lot.
He calls you his “best friend” or says, “We’re still friends, right?” after you’ve had a tiff. That’s the final piece of evidence you need that he’s really not seeing you in romantic terms. But you know what? It’s his loss because he has a great friend in you, but he could have an even more amazing girlfriend.
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