13 Things Most People Are Bad At That You Shouldn’t Beat Yourself Up For

It’s easy to feel like a fool if you can’t park your car properly or if you’re always running late. But stop beating yourself up because there are tons of things many people just can’t get right. That doesn’t mean you can’t improve on them and ace a challenge or face a fear, but it does mean you should be a tad kinder to yourself, okay? Here are 13 things most people are bad at. Phew, what a relief.

1. Parallel Parking

Come on, who can really park their car properly, especially when you have to parallel park and you’re already late for a meeting? In a UK survey, nearly half of participants said that parking is the most stressful part of driving. That’s not surprising. Here’s a tip: try to park in isolated areas at the mall, far away from all the other cars so you don’t risk fender benders.

2. Stuffing Down Your Emotions

Although it’s healthy to have a good cry if you’re upset or say what’s on your mind even if your voice shakes, let’s be real: we all struggle with being completely open about our emotions 24-7. Sometimes, it’s just not the right time to unleash them or we don’t want to upset those around us. Expressing what’s in our hearts makes us vulnerable, which isn’t bad but it doesn’t always feel great, TBH. (Note to self: avoiding emotions never works – they always come back to bite you.)

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4. Sticking To A Fitness Routine

You know it’s healthy to work out for a few hours every week, but it’s not always easy to commit to that plan. Sometimes, you’d rather veg out on the couch and watch mindless TV, right? Don’t be hard on yourself. Instead of trying to follow a tough routine, do what you can because it’s better than nothing.

5. Committing To A Sugar-Free Diet

Another difficult thing to do is stick to not eating any sugar. Guilty as charged! When you’re stressed out, all you want to do is reach for those doughnuts on the counter. Sugar’s addictive, so it’s really not as easy as cake (no pun intended) to cut it out of your life completely. Baby steps, hon. Tons of people know the struggle.

6. Not Engaging In Gossip

It’s not always easy to say no to the latest juicy morsel of gossip at the hairdresser’s or in the office. While malicious gossip that can really harm or bully someone is toxic and can sink your career, sometimes snacking on a bit of benign gossip during a mundane day can help you get through it. Many people gossip and it can strengthen bonds you have with others. Huh.

7. Getting Up On Stage

Unless you’re a famous comedian or actress, it’s not easy to get up on stage. Whether you’re starring in a play or doing a presentation, just the thought of it can make you break out in a sweat. You’re not alone. According to the Neuropsychiatric Disease and Treatment Journal, stage fright is experienced by a whopping 77 percent of the population!

8. Avoiding Social Media

You’ve got to cram for an upcoming exam or you’ve got to focus on work, but social media keeps calling. You tell yourself you’ll quickly check your IG notifications, and then an hour later you’re still scrolling through celebrity news. Ugh. If social media is like a sugar addiction for you, it’s not always easy to completely cut it out. Try to set a limit on your screen time or turn off your notifications so you resist the temptation to keep checking your phone.

9. Taking Just One Selfie

You’ve got your phone camera ready. You’ve run hands through your hair to ensure it’s pretty. You’ve nailed your best pose. Click! The photo’s snapped and you’re happy with it, no filters required! So, you upload it and – wait, are you serious? There’s no way you can only take one selfie! Unless you’re super-confident (in which case, please tell me your secrets!), you’ll want to take loads more and use tons of filters until you’re happy. Sigh. It’s a full-day job.

10. Getting Out Of Your Head

Even the most serene person in the world is going to suffer from thoughts on a loop sometimes, and there are tons of culprits for them, like anxiety, OCD, and stress. It’s okay. Be kind to yourself and accept your thoughts, but then don’t be afraid to challenge them with positive ones so they don’t run your life.

11. Getting Enough Sleep

Look, you know you’re supposed to get eight hours of sleep every night, but sometimes it’s just not possible, like if you’re chatting to someone new you’re dating or you’re binge-watching a Netflix show. Plus, for some people, getting eight hours of snooze every night just isn’t necessary – you might be someone who functions just fine with less. Go with it, I say.

12. Nailing A Work-Life Balance

This is such a common struggle, especially for women and mothers. You’ve got so much on your plate and it’s not always easy to juggle everything. Lots of people go through this and the truth is that one day you might feel like you’ve nailed it, then the next day everything becomes chaos. You’ve gotta ride the wave.

13. Saving Money

Being good with money is sexy, and you told yourself this would be the year that you saved more money. But now it’s all falling apart. The thing about money is that it comes and goes, but instead of feeling pressure to save a ton, which isn’t always practical, just save what you can. Those small amounts add up and could end up being a handy emergency fund.

14. Being Nice To Yourself

What’s the voice in your head telling you throughout the day? Is it a critical voice that’s always putting you down and making you feel like crap? Although you know it shouldn’t be like this, sometimes you can’t help it – those thoughts run away from you. It’s sad but true: it’s hard for us to be nice to ourselves. It takes regular effort and practice, but honestly? It’s so worth it.

Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.