I Want A Relationship, But I Also Don’t Want To Give Up Being Single

Although I’m completely fine with being alone most of the time, I know I don’t want to be single for the rest of my life. That means at some point, I’m going to have to try the relationship thing again. While there’s plenty to look forward to, there are still a few things about being single that I really love and I don’t think I’m quite ready to give them up.

  1. I love sleeping alone. I’ve never been afraid to admit that I absolutely hate sleeping in the same bed with someone else. I like being able to stretch out, take all the blankets and never worry about snoring or farting in my sleep. I have no interest in sharing my bed with a sweaty bed hog who elbows me in the middle of the night.
  2. I like having weekends to myself. Sure, it’s nice to have plans for a Saturday night, but luckily, I have friends for that. On those weekends I happen to have nothing to do, and I have no problem finding something. I like doing things by myself, and being single has given me way more opportunities to spend quality time with me.
  3. Never having to compromise is pretty nice. Relationships mean putting in effort to communicate and always being willing to compromise. I may not want to go to his friend’s engagement party on Saturday night, but I will anyway because that’s what girlfriends do. When I’m single, I never have to do anything I don’t want to do, and I have to admit, it feels awesome.
  4. I have so much free time. I have more time to write, more time to read, more time to watch trashy MTV reality shows, more time to shop, more time to work out, more time to cook; I just have more time. If I have a boyfriend, I’m going to have a lot less time to do whatever I please. On the bright side though: at least I’ll be spending some of that time having sex– something I rarely do these days.
  5. Sometimes dating is fun. All single girls will complain about dating until they’re blue in the face, but we all keep doing it because most of the time, we’ll at least get a good story out of it. If I’m in a relationship, I won’t be able to screenshot any more ridiculous Tinder profiles to send to my friends. Alright, I guess that’s a small price to pay for the privilege of not having to go on any more bad dates for the foreseeable future.
  6. Commitment is kind of scary. Having been through a bad breakup or two, I know that it’s something I’d really like to avoid in the future. Unfortunately, the only way to guarantee that is to avoid being in a relationship. Not really a sustainable plan, I know. I’ll have to get over it eventually, but maybe not quite yet.
  7. I don’t want to deal with petty fights. I hate those little arguments that couples always have. Even if they usually end up amounting to nothing, they still stress me out. When I’m single I never have to worry about misinterpreting a text message and then stewing over some imagined insult all day long. No boyfriend means no unnecessary arguments.
  8. Chances are it won’t work out anyway. Call me a pessimist, but even if I do meet someone I like and end up in a relationship, what are the chances it’s going to be longer than a few months? It just doesn’t seem worth the hassle. I guess the point is, if I want to find love, I have to try anyway, despite the fact that the odds are against me every step of the way.
  9. I feel like I’m in a good place right now. Career-wise I’m doing well, I have a pretty good social life, and I have plenty of interests and goals to fill up most of my free time. Why screw all that up by adding a boyfriend to the mix? He’s going to take up all of my time and mess up my schedule, and I finally got it just how I want it.
  10. I’m not interested in dating just anyone. If I’m going to make room for a guy in my life, I want to make sure he’s worthy. After everything I’ve been through to get comfortable with the single life, I’m not going to just throw that away for the first guy who wants to date me. I don’t think my standards are too high, but if they are, that’s okay, I’ll just keep right on living my perfect single girl life. I’m fine with that too.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.