Ways A Guy Treats You That Prove He Doesn’t Care About You: Signs To Watch For

I don’t think you need to be told that a guy who doesn’t give a damn about you isn’t worth wasting your time on. But how can you tell if you’re just a time and space filler for him or if he actually values his relationship with you? Here are some signs that he doesn’t care about you and you’re better off walking away now.

  1. You’re always the one to reach out first. Yeah, sure, guys aren’t all that into texting, blah blah blah. However, when a guy actually likes you, he’ll make the effort to reach out. If you’re the one doing all the chasing, constantly calling and texting him first to see what he’s up to and ask sif he wants to hang out, that’s one of the major signs he doesn’t care about you.
  2. He doesn’t care when other guys hit on you. It’s not that you want a boyfriend with jealousy issues or anything, but it’s not really a good thing when the guy you’re dating doesn’t care when other guys chat to you, hit on you, etc. He should at least feel some level of possessiveness or show an interest. If he doesn’t, he’s really not bothered.
  3. He only wants to hang out when sex is on the cards. One of the most obvious signs he doesn’t care about you is if he only wants to get together when he knows sex is going to happen. If you’re not in the mood, you have your period, or you suggest going out or doing something where you won’t have alone time to get intimate, he’s suddenly busy or “too tired.” Wow.
  4. You’re always a last-minute option rather than a priority. He should be putting you high on his list of priorities but for some reason, it always seems like you’re the last on the totem pole. When he comes to you, it’s more because he’s run out of other options rather than because he actually wants to. You deserve so much better!
  5. Talk of the future is nonexistent. You bring up something you’re hoping to do/see/achieve in the next 5-10 years or even a few months from now and you might as well be speaking Japanese to him. It’s like he goes blank, and that’s because he doesn’t have any plans on being with you at that point.
  6. He calls all the shots. Instead of it being an equal partnership in which your thoughts, feelings, and preferences are taken into account, he makes all the decisions based on what suits him. You’re never consulted or considered, and that’s yet another of the major signs he doesn’t care about you. Why don’t you ever get a say?
  7. You’ve never met his family or friends. A guy who’s crazy about you will want to show you off to the other people in his life, especially his family members and close friends. Obviously this isn’t always a step that happens in the first couple of weeks, but if it’s been a few months and there’s no mention of an introduction, cut your losses.
  8. He’s not interested in getting to know you on a deeper level. He never asks you about your hopes and dreams or inquires to find out what makes you tick. He knows a few surface things about you and that’s enough for him. How much clearer could it be that he doesn’t care about you? Read the signs, girl!
  9. He’s still active on dating apps. I don’t even need to elaborate on this, right? A guy who’s dating someone but still active on social media apps is a player and not worth your time. Move on!



Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill