What You Should Know Before Dating A Capricorn Man

Capricorn men are ambitious and driven, intelligent, and highly logical. Being in a relationship with one comes with its fair share of pros and cons, both of which you should keep in mind before diving in. Here are some things you should know about dating the charismatic and impressive earth sign that is a Capricorn man.

  1. Don’t feel threatened by his job. When you’re dating someone who works a lot, it’s easy to feel like their job is more important than you. One of the top things to understand about Capricorn men, though, is that they tend to be workaholics. Their career ambitions are usually very important to them, so it can feel like that’s all they care about at times. Try not to feel threatened by the attention he puts towards his job because it’s not a reflection of his lack of interest in you—it’s just what feels natural to him. He’s not one for stopping his life every time he starts dating someone new and forgetting about his other goals to concentrate on his blooming relationship. The more he gets to know you, the more important you’ll become.
  2. He craves a routine. An earth sign, Capricorn often feels the most comfortable when following a routine. He prefers to know what’s going to happen and, possibly, stay in control. When it comes to dating, this isn’t the best sign to surprise or take on spontaneous dates. The chances are he prefers seeing you at the same time every week and developing relationship habits with you.
  3. He thinks things through logically. Capricorn is a logical thinker. Although he can be hot-headed at times, he’s not driven by emotions the way other signs are (looking at you, water signs). He looks at both sides of any given situation and follows rational thinking processes until he comes to a decision. Sometimes, his lack of emotion can make him seem cold. But again, don’t take it personally. That’s just how his brain works.
  4. Pessimism comes naturally to him. People tend to be attracted to positivity and others who lift us up instead of bringing us down. Unfortunately, Capricorn often sees things through a more pessimistic lens than a positive one. He’s not the best at being open-minded or believing in things unless he’s got the proof in front of him. This can be difficult when you’re a positive person trying to date a Capricorn, as it might feel like his negative opinions are weighing you down. But if you’re too optimistic and get your hopes up too often, they also might bring balance to you.
  5. You’ll only get the chance to break his heart once. Everyone knows that Capricorn isn’t the most forgiving sign. If you’re going to break his heart, you’ll only get the chance to do it once. Once you hurt him, whether intentionally or unintentionally, he tends to shut you out.
  6. He can be bossy. As logical thinkers, Capricorn men don’t always understand how they come across or how their words make people feel. His strong personality can make him bossy. This, combined with his tendency to not understand how he comes across can mean that he sometimes says hurtful things. Don’t be afraid to call him out when he’s too bossy or domineering.
  7. He’s not afraid of hard work. One of the best Capricorn traits is that he’s not afraid of hard work. When you need him to pull his weight, rest assured that he’ll be there ready to help. He doesn’t shy away from effort and he doesn’t have a lazy bone in his body. If things get tough in your relationship, most Capricorn men will be willing to do the work necessary to solve the issues, rather than pretending they don’t exist and letting them build up.
  8. He can be condescending. Unfortunately, Capricorn men can be condescending at times. Because they tend to be successful in their professional lives, they can walk the walk, but sometimes the talk can be annoying. Again, if the Capricorn guy you’re dating ever talks down to you, don’t be afraid to let him know how he’s making you feel. Set boundaries from the beginning so he knows that belittling you is not okay.
  9. Don’t make fun of him. Despite being logical rather than emotional, Capricorn men can also be notoriously sensitive. He’s not the best at taking a joke, so it’s not a good idea to make fun of him, even in a playful way. If you are the type who likes to make good-natured jokes, wait until you really get to know him and feel comfortable playing with him. Remember that this sign does tend to take himself very seriously and may interpret a harmless joke as a serious dig.
  10. He’s skilled in the bedroom. Capricorns love to have sex (like most other signs, to be fair). The difference is that they tend to be really good at it. They’re passionate, which means that you should feel fireworks whenever they touch you. Plus, they’re good listeners, which means it won’t take long for them to figure out how to please you. If you’re dating a Capricorn man, be prepared for boundless pleasure in the bedroom.
  11. He takes things slowly. A Capricorn man won’t rush into a relationship when dating. He wants to take his time to get to know you properly and determine if you share deep chemistry. However, once he’s committed, he’s committed for life. He won’t be with you unless he can easily see a future with you by his side.
  12. He doesn’t show his emotions easily. Capricorns are able to hide their emotions so well that you’ll wonder if they’re robotic. That means it could be hard for you to convince your boyfriend to open up to you. Unless he loves and trusts you 100%, he won’t want to do any talking. Try to be patient with him and offer him a safe space to open up. Don’t push him into it, but give him time to open up naturally.
  13. He’s extremely reliable. Capricorns are responsible and dependable in pretty much every area of life. If you ask him to do you a favor, he’ll do it. If you ask him to show up at a certain time, he’ll be there five minutes earlier. He’s someone you can rely on, so you never have to worry about him letting you down. Dating a Capricorn means never being let down, that’s for sure.
  14. He hates drama. Don’t play hard to get with a Capricorn. This sign hates mind games, so you’ll only push him away if you start playing them. Same goes for if you prefer a fiery (read: argumentative) relationship. He’s not interested in this kind of thing. He wants his girlfriend to bring him peace, not drama.
  15. He doesn’t like boring dates. Capricorns aren’t interested in dinner and a movie. They’d prefer to spend their time at a place that would teach them something new, like a museum or an aquarium. Mental stimulation is just as important as physical stimulation to them. So, when it’s your turn to plan date nights, don’t be shy about getting creative.
  16. He may be self-conscious. Capricorns are pros when it comes to faking confidence. However, you shouldn’t let them fool you, because they’re actually incredibly self-conscious. That’s why you should be delicate when talking about your Capricorn boyfriend’s looks or weight. You don’t want to hurt him without realizing it.
  17. He’s extremely smart. Capricorns are logical and inquisitive, which means they’re usually very knowledgeable. They’re one of the most intelligent signs, which is why you should only date them if you’re interested in talking about stimulating topics. Otherwise, you two won’t have much to say to each other. Dating a Capricorn man will certainly stimulate your mind.
  18. He’s frugal but not cheap, so don’t confuse the two. Don’t expect your boyfriend to take you out on dates every weekend. Some days, he’ll want to stay at home to save money. He isn’t cheap, he’s just good with money. He wants to save up enough to have a successful future with you. Give him some credit for that.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.