I don’t know anyone who doesn’t love feeling wanted, but for some women, the desire to be noticed and fawned over by guys is overwhelming. It might seem like desperate or pitiful behavior, but that’s not the case at all. If you find that you crave male attention even though you know you should be fine on your own, here’s what could be going on.
- Your self-confidence is in short supply. Part of the reason you crave male attention is because you want them to validate you. You feel like if a guy wants you, that must mean that you’re hot/smart/cool/funny/whatever because otherwise, why else would he be interested? The problem here is that you shouldn’t need a man (or anyone for that matter) to make you feel good about yourself. Until you believe deep-down that you’re enough just as you are and you start exuding that confidence to the world around you, you’re in for a world of trouble.
- You put guys on a pedestal. You build guys up to be way greater than they are. They might be human beings just like you, but in your head, they’re akin to gods. Therefore, if they notice you and pay attention to you, it makes you feel more special. It’s time to stop acting like men are anything other than what they are. There are some good ones out there, for sure, but so what? They’re on the same level as you.
- You aren’t giving yourself what you need. There’s nothing wrong with wanting companionship in your life, but if you crave male attention, it could be because you’re not fulfilling your own needs. You’re looking to men to make up for all the shortcomings in your life and that will never work. You should be 100% complete before getting into a relationship if you want it to work – anything less is bound for disaster.
- Your relationship with your dad leaves a bit to be desired. This is the oldest cliche in the book, but it exists for a reason. Many women crave male attention (or have other “daddy issues”) because their relationships with their own fathers was either strained or even nonexistent. This makes total sense and it’s not your fault. However, if you recognize this about yourself and see certain aspects of your life being dictated by your dad in any way, it might be a good idea to seek professional therapy so you can process your feelings and change course.
- You just want to be loved. And we all do – that’s fine. Maybe you think that your friends or your family can never love you as passionately as you desire to be loved and that only a romantic partner could fill that void. That could be true, but you don’t need a man to feel loved and happy. You just need to learn to find filfullment within. Then, when a good guy does come your way, he’ll be a bonus, not a necessity.
