If He Won’t Call You His Girlfriend, Stop Answering His Calls

If a guy won’t call you his girlfriend, then you should stop answering his texts. You’re not a sex object. That means you deserve to be treated like a human being with feelings, and like someone he feels privileged to be with. If a man refuses to make your relationship official and he won’t call you his girlfriend, here’s why you should kick him to the curb.

  1. He should be proud to show you off. He should be excited to tell people you’re a proper couple in front of all of his friends and family. You’re a catch, so if he won’t call you his girlfriend yet, then his priorities must be skewed.
  2. You’re more than a body. If he doesn’t consider you his girlfriend, then he probably considers you a friend with benefits or a booty call. That means he values you for your body more than your mind, and you don’t need a man like that.
  3. You should be the only girl in his life. Having a girlfriend means making a commitment. If he refuses to date you, then he probably wants to keep his options open so he can sleep with any woman who wants him.
  4. You deserve happiness as much as he does. If you won’t give you what you want, then why should you give him what he wants? Until he agrees to call you his girlfriend, you should stop sleeping with him and stop returning his messages.
  5. You can do better. Don’t settle for a player just because you don’t think you can land another, better guy. There are plenty of people out there that would be willing to call you their girlfriend and treat you the way you truly deserve, so don’t sell yourself short.
  6. You need to value yourself. You can’t place all of the blame on the guy who refuses to date you, because you’re allowing him to treat you poorly. You need to take a stand by cutting him out of your life.
  7. You deserve to get what you want. If you’re not getting what you want out of the deal, then why would you even want to answer his calls? He shouldn’t be the only one who gets his way while you’re stuck being miserable.
  8. He won’t change his mind. If he won’t call you his girlfriend now, then he probably won’t change his mind anytime soon. If you let him sleep with you without labeling the relationship, then sex is all he’ll ever want from you.
  9. There’s more to life than sex. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that sex is the best part of a relationship. There are so many other aspects of dating that you don’t want to miss out on, like holding hands and cuddling in bed.
  10. Relationship labels do matter. Don’t fool yourself into believing that labels are pointless, because they say a lot about how a man feels about you. If he won’t call you his girlfriend, then he’s either scared of commitment, trying to sleep with someone else, or is trying to run away from his feelings.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.