If He Won’t Call You His Girlfriend, Stop Answering His Calls

If He Won’t Call You His Girlfriend, Stop Answering His Calls

If a guy won’t call you his girlfriend, then you should stop answering his calls. You’re not a sex object. That means you deserve to be treated like a human being with feelings, and like someone he feels privileged to be with. If a man refuses to actually date you, here’s why you should kick him to the curb:

  1. He should be proud to show you off. He should be excited to smooch you in front of all of his friends and family. You’re a catch, so if he’s not calling you his girlfriend yet, then his priorities must be skewed.
  2. You’re more than a body. If he doesn’t consider you his girlfriend, then he probably considers you a friend with benefits or a booty call. That means he values you for your body more than your mind, and you don’t need a man like that.
  3. You should be the only girl in his life. Having a girlfriend means making a commitment. If he refuses to date you, then he probably wants to keep his options open so he can sleep with any woman who wants him.
  4. You deserve happiness as much as he does. If you won’t give you what you want, then why should you give him what he wants? Until he agrees to call you his girlfriend, you should stop sleeping with him and stop returning his messages.
  5. You can do better. Don’t settle for a player, just because you don’t think you can land another, better guy. There are plenty of people out there that would be willing to call you their girlfriend, and treat you the way you truly deserve, so don’t sell yourself short.
  6. You need to value yourself. You can’t place all of the blame on the guy who refuses to date you, because you’re allowing him to treat you poorly. You need to take a stand by cutting him out of your life.
  7. You deserve to get what you want. If you’re not getting what you want out of the deal, then why would you even want to answer his calls? He shouldn’t be the only one who gets his way while you’re stuck being miserable.
  8. He won’t change his mind. If he won’t call you his girlfriend now, then he probably won’t change his mind anytime soon. If you let him sleep with you without labeling the relationship, then sex is all he’ll ever want from you.
  9. There’s more to life than sex. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that sex is the best part of any relationship. There are so many other aspects of dating that you don’t want to miss out on, like holding hands and cuddling in bed.
  10. Labels do matter. Don’t fool yourself into believing that labels are pointless, because they say a lot about how a man feels about you. If he won’t call you his girlfriend, then he’s either scared of commitment, trying to sleep with someone else, or is trying to run away from his feelings.
Holly is a science fiction and horror writer, who has recently been published by Flash Fiction Press, Infective Ink, and Popcorn Press. You can find more of her nonfiction articles on All Women Stalk, The Talko, and News Cult.