If You Worry About These 10 Things, Congrats — You’re A Normal Single Girl

When you’re single AF, you feel like the odd woman out most of the time. Sure, you totally get that other people are rolling solo too, but it doesn’t seem that way. The truth is that everything that you worry about is pretty common. If you’re concerned about these 10 things, congrats — you’re a normal single girl.

  1. You wonder if you’ll be alone forever. This is the number one thing that you worry about on a regular basis when you’re solo, and no matter how painful it can be, it’s also pretty typical. The truth is that you probably won’t be on your own forever. It’s pretty cliche at this point to say that you have more love in your life than you realize, from your best friends to your family, and yet that’s still the reality. Remember all those stories about single AF women who finally find love and it actually lasts? That can definitely happen to you too — and it most likely will.
  2. You feel unlovable. It’s easy to blame yourself for the fact that you’re single. You wonder what’s wrong with you and if anyone is ever going to fall for you. Of course, absolutely nothing is wrong with you. You’re the best. Sometimes you’re just single for a long period of time because that’s the way that life goes. You’re still going to have your moments when you wonder why this is happening to you, though, just like everyone else.
  3. You think you’re not ready for a real relationship. The longer that you think about the fact that you don’t have a boyfriend, the more you wonder if that’s because of you. Maybe you’ve been lying to yourself this entire time. Maybe you’re not ready for a relationship after all. This is a typical thing to think, and the truth is that it’s probably not even true.
  4. You wonder if you’re on too many dating apps. Yeah, dating is a numbers game… or is it? How much are you supposed to buy into that idea? It’s normal to be on a few different dating apps when you’re single and it’s just as normal to wonder if that’s one app too many. There’s really nothing wrong with trying to up your chances of meeting the right guy.
  5. You consider settling and then freak out. Is settling the only way to be in a relationship? You might think this after witnessing some of your friends totally settle for guys that are definitely not right for them. You will start a downward spiral where you’re going to consider settling and you’re going to wonder if every couple that you know is totally unhappy. It’s not fun, but it is normal.
  6. You stress out about making future plans. You don’t want to wait until you’re in a relationship before making big life decisions like moving to a new apartment or even changing careers… but at the same time, you wonder if you should hold off a bit. What’s a single girl to do? If you stress out about making future plans, it’s more normal than you think.
  7. You wonder if your #girlboss status is why you’re on your own. You wouldn’t trade your career or your ambition for anything in the world. Of course not. You kill every day at the office (or in your apartment if you work for yourself) and it’s the best. There’s definitely a part of you, though, that blames your #girlboss status for your single status. If you worked less, would you have more time to go on dates? Is your work ethic off-putting? You know that you don’t want to date guys who don’t respect your love of work, and at the same time, it’s annoying AF.
  8. You try not to love being alone as much as you actually do. It’s not actually a good thing if you enjoy being single. Why? Because then you wonder if you love this lifestyle so much, you never want to actually meet anyone. And since deep down, you do want to find that great love, this is a pretty confusing thought cycle. You spend half of your time living in the moment and enjoying yourself and the other half thinking about wanting to be in love again.
  9. You feel like you forget how to be a girlfriend. The longer you go without even kissing someone, let alone going on a good first date, the more you feel like you’re not girlfriend material anymore. You don’t even remember how to play this role. It’s totally normal to think this way, even though of course you would still be an awesome partner.
  10. You wonder if love even exists. Ask any single woman and they’ll agree that this is something you think about on a regular basis. It makes sense. If you were in love, then you would definitely agree that love is real, but since you’re not and haven’t been for a long time, it would actually be weird if you still believed in the whole deal. All you need is to finally find someone so you can stop being so negative about romance. Until then, you’re just going to be over here, thinking your totally annoying yet completely normal single girl thoughts.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.