Is He Your Next Big Mistake or Your Next Big Love? 22 Ways to Tell

As Taylor Swift suggests in her song Blank Space, it’s sometimes hard to tell if a guy is your next big love, or your next big mistake. How can you tell? Here are 22 differences:

  1. If he’s your next big mistake…you’ll see him on Instagram more than you see him in real life, your eyes red from googling women in his photos. If he’s your next big love, you’ll have better things to do than stalk him.
  2. If he’s your next big mistake…you’ll never know where things are going. Are you his girlfriend or just a hookup? Who knows. If he’s your next big love, you won’t need to ask where things are going – it’ll be clear they’re moving in the right direction.
  3. If he’s your next big mistake…you’ll spend hours dissecting his behavior with your girlfriends. If he’s your next big love, you’ll spend hours gushing about him to your girlfriends.
  4. If he’s your next big mistake…seeing him talk to another woman will make you nervous, fill you with dread, and potentially make you want to get into a girl fight. If he’s your next big love, you’ll trust that he’s just having a conversation.
  5. If he’s your next big mistake…you’ll fantasize about hacking into his email and breaking into his phone. If he’s your next big love, you’ll be amazed that a guy could make you feel so secure. (Yes, those guys exist.)
  6. If he’s your next big mistake…you’ll never know when you’re going to hear from him next, your entire life on pause as you wait for that “ding!” If he’s your next big love, he’ll text you just about every day, unprompted. (That’s what guys do when they’re into you. No exceptions.)
  7. If he’s your next big mistake… you’ll always feel a little empty after you hang out with him. If he’s your next big love, you’ll feel like he could be your missing piece.
  8. If he’s your next big mistake…all your insecurities will suddenly get magnified. If he’s your next big love, you’ll suddenly feel hotter and stronger.
  9. If he’s your next big mistake…he won’t care about your dreams, your passions or your plans. If he’s your next big love, he’ll support you in achieving your dreams, he’ll find it sexy that there are things you’re passionate about, and he’ll definitely want to be part of your future plans.
  10. If he’s your next big mistake…everything will feel like it’s on his terms — he’ll only care about his needs. If he’s your next big love, he’ll actually look for ways to make you happy — he’ll be actively trying to win your heart.
  11. If he’s your next big mistake…you’ll probably never see him outside his apartment. If he’s your next big love, he’ll be planning all sorts of things to do with you.
  12. If he’s your next big mistake…your appearance will matter to him more than anything else. If he’s your next big love, he’ll care about your brain and your heart, not just your body.
  13. If he’s your next big mistake…he’ll be hot one minute (when he wants something) and cold the next (when he’s done with you for a bit). If he’s your next big love, he’ll be hot almost all the time.
  14. If he’s your next big mistake…you’ll feel like you’re always trying to take things to the next level. If he’s your next big love, you’ll feel like he’s trying to take things to the next level.
  15. If he’s your next big mistake…his friends and family won’t know you exist. If he’s your next big love, he’ll hardly be able to wait to introduce you to the people in his life.
  16. If he’s your next big mistake…you’ll feel like something’s missing, and it will be: the connection just won’t be there. If he’s your next big love, the connection will feel deep.
  17. If he’s your next big mistake…he’ll make you feel like an afterthought. If he’s your next big love, he’ll make you feel like you’re at the top of his priority list.
  18. If he’s your next big mistake…he’ll make you feel like you need to play games. If he’s your next big love, you’ll be totally comfortable letting things unfold organically.
  19. If he’s your next big mistake…he’ll make you feel like you can’t depend on him when you need him. If he’s your next big love, he’ll want you to lean on him.
  20. If he’s your next big mistake…you’ll never feel like you’re getting enough of him. If he’s your next big love, you’ll feel like you just can’t get enough of him, but in a good way.
  21. If he’s your next big mistake…you’ll always feel like you’re chasing him, trying to get his attention. If he’s your next big love, he’ll chase you.
  22. If he’s your next big mistake…he’ll make you doubt your desirability. If he’s your next big love, he’ll show you how absolutely desirable you are.
Halle Kaye is the author of the insightful, inspirational and hilarious dating guide for women, "Maybe He's Just an Asshole: Ditch Denial, Embrace Your Worth, and Find True Love!"
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