10 Self-Destructive Things You Should Never Do After A Breakup

We all go through breakups, and there’s plenty of advice out there telling you how to get through them with your sanity intact. It’s usually about giving yourself permission to be upset, accepting that the breakup was for the best, and then re-focusing on yourself. But there’s also plenty of things that people do after a breakup that’s incredibly self-destructive. It might feel good in the moment, but ultimately it’s unhealthy and not helping you move on.

Eat everything.

No one’s going to tell you not to cry into a pint of ice cream one night if that’s what you want to do. But if you continue to eat your feelings, you’re only going to end up feeling worse. So go ahead and have an Oreo or two, but then put the box away.

Become a hermit.

The world doesn’t stop turning just because you’re suddenly single. You still have a job to go to, and friends and family that love you. Locking yourself away in an attempt to hide from anything that reminds you of him isn’t going to work forever. So you might as well just face the reality of your life without him.

Obsess over everything you did wrong.

Breakups take two people, so chances are your relationship ending wasn’t all your fault. Blaming yourself isn’t making you feel better, and it’s not going to change anything, so why torture yourself?

Refuse to accept it’s over.

Living in denial by wearing his clothes to bed, stalking him on social media every day, and day dreaming about the day you get back together is guaranteed to hold you back from ever getting over him and moving on. It might be easier said than done at first, but erasing him from your day to day life is a great first step in accepting it’s really over.

Rebound directly into a new relationship.

By all means, get out there and meet new people. Go on dates and give new guys a chance. But don’t rush into a commitment just because you’re afraid of ending up alone. That relationship is doomed from the start, and you know it.

Date people who are all wrong for you.

A failed relationship doesn’t have to be a waste as long as you learn something about yourself and what you’re looking for. If you ignore the lessons you should have learned and keep dating people who are obviously not right for you, you’re just sabotaging your own happiness.

Fixate on getting ‘revenge’.

It’s natural to want your ex to feel as hurt as you do, but ultimately, that’s not something you can control. Getting in really good shape, or getting a cool new haircut are both great, but do those things because you want to, not because you think they’d be an awesome ‘screw you’ to him.

Go on a spending spree.

If spending money is your vice of choice when you’re in bury your feelings mode, be careful. A new purse or pair of shoes to cheer yourself up might be worthwhile, but don’t go into debt just to distract yourself from your breakup. A huge credit card bill isn’t going to make you feel any better in the long run.

Bad mouth him to everyone you know.

You might want to let all your mutual friends know that he’s the one who ruined your relationship so they’ll be on your side. But the only thing trashing him is doing is making you look petty and immature. Keep the dirty details of your breakup to yourself, because chances are it doesn’t exactly cast you in the most flattering light either.

Let jealousy get the best of you.

Your friend who just got engaged and is impossibly happy while you’re going through the worst breakup of your life doesn’t deserve your bitterness. It may not be easy to see someone else getting all the things you want, but your unhappiness isn’t her fault, so don’t take out your frustrations on her.

The best dating/relationships advice on the web – Sponsored If you’re reading this, check out Relationship Hero, a site where highly trained relationship coaches get you, get your situation, and help you accomplish what you want. They help you through complicated and difficult love situations like deciphering mixed signals, getting over a breakup, or anything else you’re worried about. You immediately connect with an awesome coach on text or over the phone in minutes. Just click here

Read more:

Share this article now!