10 Signs A Man Is Done With You (And What To Do Next)

Your spidey senses are telling you that your boyfriend is falling out of love, but friends tell you that you’re being dramatic or paranoid. Is there any truth to these concerns? Is your gut trying to tell you something? The sad thing is that if you’re feeling strongly that your BF is over the relationship, you’re probably onto something. Confirm it by checking for any of these 10 signs that a man is done with you. We also figure out if and how you can try to get things back on track.

1. He never seems to want to talk.

While he might still talk to you about issues or logistics throughout the day, such as if you’re living or working together, he just doesn’t sit and chat with you about funny stuff the way he used to. It’s almost like he’s erecting a border around certain topics. Try to bring up light topics when you’re both relaxed and not at work, just to see what happens. There’s still a chance he’s just been too stressed to LOL.

2. He Never Touches You.

A lack of intimacy in a relationship is usually a huge red flag that the guy’s checking out, but you should also check for a lack of affection. If he no longer touches your arm or hugs you, this is just as bad. Try giving him some affection and see how he reacts. If he gets annoyed or moves away, that’s a bad sign he’s over it.

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4. He Doesn’t Argue.

When you get into a fight, does he quickly try to shut it down instead of resolve it? You’re left feeling hurt or upset, while he’s already moving on with the rest of his day like nothing happened. Damn. While this could be a difference in fighting styles, it could also be his way of showing you he doesn’t see a future with you by not resolving things or wanting to grow with you. Communicate with him about how you feel when he shuts you down. If he still cares, he’s going to want to talk to you.

5. He Looks Ready To Rage.

Lately, it feels like your guy’s always in a bad mood. You can just see it in his eyes. He’s also irritable and quick to lose his cool. Woah. While this could be happening for various reasons, like stress at work, it’s worth chatting to him about it. If he tells you he’s fine but then continues to be moody AF around you, that’s a red flag. He might be bored with your relationship and it’s showing up as a lousy mood.

6. He “Forgets” Your Birthday.

Your birthday rolls around and he completely avoids you or doesn’t text to wish you. Ugh, what? That’s a huge diss. Maybe it’s not just your birthday he’s “forgetting” about, but your anniversary and other important dates on the calendar. It’s essential to tell him how messed up this is! What is he doing?

7. He Picks Fights.

While he was always a peace-loving guy, lately it feels like he’s always picking at you. Maybe he criticizes how you drive or dress, or it feels like nothing you do is good enough for him. You’ve got to ask him what’s going on with him and keep a list handy of specific instances when he was nitpicky so you have proof to back you up. See what he says.

8. He’s Got More Time For Friends.

You used to love spending time together, but lately, he’s always out with his mates instead of with you – and you never crack an invite to those outings. Hmm. It feels like he’s trying to avoid you and would rather behave like a single guy. This rejection isn’t cool and if your guy keeps avoiding dates you try to plan, you’ve got to wonder if it’s even worth your time to keep trying to get his attention.

9. He’s Flirty With Other Women In Front Of You.

When you’re out together, you always catch his eyes wandering to other women. Ugh. He might even be a tad too chatty with other women, like the waitress at your favorite restaurant. It’s enough to make you roll your eyes and lose your appetite. You’ve got to speak up about how disrespected you feel when he does this. Does he brush it off or get annoyed with you, as though you’re the problem? Yikes.

10. He Leaves You On Double Grey Ticks.

It’s bad enough when a guy leaves you on read, with those two annoying blue ticks, it’s even worse when you’re left on unread with those two grey ticks. This means he’s online on WhatsApp but just doesn’t care to read your messages. Uh-oh. This isn’t cool. Reach out to see what’s going on with him, or stay silent and see if he ever resurfaces. How long are you supposed to wait for him?

11. He Doesn’t Care About Your Life.

When a guy stops showing interest in you and your life, down to avoiding asking you how your day was, this is a clear sign he’s checking out of the relationship. He doesn’t care if you’re away for the weekend and don’t make contact, and doesn’t flinch when you’re working longer hours at work. Yikes. Instead of texting him, step back and see what happens. It’s hard but it’ll show you where he’s at. Honestly, after all these signs, you should suss out if you should even be trying to work things out with this guy.

Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.