He can say he feels confident in your relationship, but if the guy in your life doesn’t actually show you that he does through his actions, what’s the point? Learning to trust is at the foundation of a healthy and happy relationship. You may think your relationship is solid, but if he exhibits any of these signs, it’s pretty obvious he doesn’t really trust you.
- He gives you too much attention. You might think he’s just a super sweet guy who loves to dote on you but beware of a guy who gives you too much attention. He may not be interested in your every move and how you spend every hour of the day because he wants to be a part of your life. He could be disguising his trust issues as being overly concerned about you, but what he really wants you to do is keep him updated because he doesn’t think you’re telling him the truth about your whereabouts.
- He hates all your friends. Whether they’re male or female, the guy who doesn’t trust you will always find something wrong with your friends. He’ll slowly try to pull you away from those who care about you because he’s probably afraid they’ll knock some sense into you and convince you to leave him. His insecurity won’t allow him to realize that having friends outside of a relationship is healthy. He wants you all to himself so he can keep an eye on everything you do, and the only way he can do that is to push your friends away.
- He accuses you of lying. This one is a no-brainer, but the guy who always doubts what you say obviously doesn’t trust you. He might be able to keep his suspicions inside for a while but soon enough, he’ll expose himself as being a guy who just doesn’t trust anyone. Whenever he asks you a question, he’ll always doubt your answer because he’ll just assume you’re lying.
- He stalks your social media. The good thing about social media is that you’re able to connect with people from all corners of the world. The bad thing about social media is that it’ll drive your distrusting boyfriend mad. He’ll analyze every status update and he’ll question you about everyone who comments underneath your pictures. In his mind, he’s convinced that every person who “likes” your status update is someone you’re secretly screwing behind his back. Dealing with a guy like this is exhausting. Why even bother?
- He has a fit whenever you go out without him. Trying to get away from him even for a second is like trying to get out of going to your Aunt’s 5oth birthday party—it’s just not going to happen. He’ll put up a fight every time you try to do anything without him. He doesn’t want to be with you all the time because he’s so in love with you — he wants to keep a watchful eye on everything you do.
- He monopolized your time. Soon enough, you’ll stop hanging with your friends and family just to keep the peace with your boyfriend, and that’s when he’ll have you right where he wanted you to be all along: right by his side. Spending quality time with your partner is a great feeling, but if you feel like you’re being forced to spend every waking moment with him, it could be a sign that he’s keeping imaginary shackles on you because he just doesn’t trust you.
- Your phone rings off the hook. On the rare occasion that you two spend a few hours away from each other, he won’t let you go about your business peacefully. The guy who doesn’t trust will blow up your phone by calling for the dumbest reasons. If you don’t answer, he’ll move on to texting you. When those messages aren’t responded to, he’ll hit you up on Snapchat…and Facebook…and Twitter. He’ll relentlessly try to get ahold of you just so he can figure out what you’re doing and who you’re doing it with. Aren’t you fed up with him yet?
- He asks a billion questions. Asking questions is a sign that someone cares about you, but a guy who asks too many questions can be a bad thing. He’s not generally interested in what you’re doing—he asks a bunch of questions just to see if he can catch you in a lie.
- He snoops. The second you head off to the bathroom to take a shower, the guy who has no confidence in you will go through your text messages and read your email. He’s always worried that you’ll hook up with someone else, and it’s his mission to catch you in the act. If you want to live your life being watched 24/7 then this is the guy for you. But if you want a partner who trusts that you love him and you’ll never disrespect him in any way, it’s time to look for a new boo.
- He disagrees with all of your decisions. Whenever you tell him your plans or the idea for a project you have, he’ll always come back with a new suggestion. You probably think you have someone in your life who really cares and has your best interests at heart, but the guy who doesn’t trust you also won’t trust that you can make decisions on your own. He’ll bitch about the groceries you pick up at the store and the restaurant you choose to eat at. Also, he won’t even ask you for your opinion because he doesn’t trust that you have enough knowledge to give him the right feedback. If you’ve noticed any of these signs of distrust in your relationship, it’s time to confront them head-on.
