10 Signs Your Friends Are Sick Of Hearing You Talk About Your Ex

When you’re suffering from a broken heart, your failed relationship is all you can seem to talk about. As much as you wish you could forget your ex, you can’t help but obsess over it. Like good girlfriends should be, yours are always there for you, but even they have their breaking point. So how can you tell that your friends are sick and tired of hearing about your ex?

  1. You’ve stopped feeling like you’re being heard. Your friends might nod along, but they’re not really listening. You hear the words coming out of your mouth, but sometimes it feels as if you’re the only one who can hear them. You just want them to say something (anything) to make you feel better, but everything to say has already been said, likely a dozen times or more.
  2. They always seem to change the subject. You just want to talk for hours about your ex, but your friends don’t seem to bite your bait anymore. Instead, every time you bring up how much you miss him, they change the subject. Not only are they trying to help you out by getting your mind off him, they also don’t want to keep listening to you bitch about him.
  3. You have nothing new to say. You’re expressing the same feelings over and over again — it’s as if you’re on repeat. Just remember, even the very best songs can become old real fast if you overplay them, so stop sounding like a broken record. Your girls will always be there for you, but if you stop talking about the breakup, eventually you’ll stop thinking about it too.
  4. Even you feel like you talk about him too much. Deep down, you know you’re obsessing. You can’t stop thinking about him and you can’t seem to stop verbalizing those thoughts. If you’re already worried that you’re talking about him too much, most likely you are. At least try to filter those thoughts, because talking about his every second is exhausting for everyone.
  5. They’ve suggested that it’s time for you to move on. Your girls know that it takes time to move on, but eventually, you have to stop procrastinating the healing process. Obsessing over your ex isn’t going to help you let go of the relationship, so when they start suggesting you move on, take the hint that while you might not forget your ex tomorrow, you should at least be taking the steps to finally leave him behind you.
  6. You’re beginning to worry what they think of you. Your friends aren’t judging you, but they realize that hanging on to your ex will only hurt you in the long run. After a while, you begin to sense this, but instead of realizing what’s best for you, you focus on whether or not you’re beginning to look like a crazy ex.
  7. They’ve tried to get you back out there. Good friends aren’t just going to leave you hanging when you need them most. Even though they’re sick of hearing about your ex, they want you to be happy. That’s why instead of hanging you out to dry, they try to throw you right back into the sea. After all, there are plenty of other fish out there.
  8. Unless there’s actually something to do, they don’t want to hang out. Your girls love you. They just don’t love your Debbie Downer attitude. That’s why when you hang out, they want to go out. When there’s something to do, you get a distraction from your ex and they get a good whine-free (and wine-full) time with their girl who’s too good to be throwing a pity party about her ex.
  9. They know the story of your breakup by heart. If they can tell your story as if they’ve lived it, then they’ve probably heard it one too many times. You could start off a sentence and they could finish it, and that’s not a good thing. You’re not saying anything new, and that’s why the story has grown old. Your breakup is old news, so for the sake of your friendships, find something new to say.
  10. You’re not getting the reaction you desire. You’ve heard their replies to your distress so many times that it’s actually stopped helping. They tell you you’re too good for him, and that used to make you feel better, but now it just feels like meaningless words. They really do mean what they say, but you’ve gotten the same reaction so many times that you’re numb to it. You’re stuck and as much as they try to pull you out of your rut, things one get better until you decide to brush yourself off, stop whining, and start healing.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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