10 Signs You’re Truly Done With Dating & Want To Be Alone Forever

It’s possible that back in the day, a husband and kids were part of your vision for the future. But if the years keep passing and you’ve been unhappy looking for the right guy, it’s possible that the single life is just a better fit for you. If you’re thinking of ditching dating altogether, here are some signs it may not be the worst situation.

  1. Dates are torturous. You have a huge anxiety attack beforehand, hate every second of the “getting to know you” sit-down, and then never end up talking to the guy ever again once it’s over. You’re starting to resent the whole process. In a way, you’re actually self-sabotaging yourself. You’re only going out to meet these guys to say that you tried. Maybe it’s just better to stay single.
  2. You feel the pressure from your parents more than anyone. The only reason you’re even actively looking is based on pressure from your parents. They won’t stay quiet about weddings and babies even though both seem like far-off illusions to you. Remember, your parents are looking out for your best interest, but they’ve lived their lives and made their choices. The choice to date is entirely up to you.
  3. You’ve realized you’re losing attraction to everyone. You may have a few celebrity crushes, but when it comes to actual people, you just don’t really pine for anyone or any trait. It’s almost like you’re just tired of interacting with people or know that despite how great the person may seem, they still have a fair amount of flaws that’ll likely become apparent much later.
  4. You’ve been totally fine living life by yourself. You’ve been so independent that you don’t need anyone else to pick up the slack. In fact, introducing someone else to your life might just make things way more chaotic. You have your routine and your own patterns and you just don’t know if you can adjust to anyone else’s schedule.
  5. You’re at peace with the idea of a solo future. When you think about what the next 20 years will look like, you’re not scared of the fact that you may be doing things on your own. You’re already used to eating out alone and seeing movies alone, so thinking about doing the same for the next couple of decades isn’t a crazy thought. You actually enjoy having the freedom of getting to do what you want to do.
  6. “I told you so” is something you feel like uttering when your friends end relationships. You’ve seen it all. Some of the world’s best boyfriends have passed by just to leave your friend feeling heartbroken and alone. You love the fact that nobody is in the position to toy with your emotions the same way.
  7. Your schedule is already jam-packed. You actually have a ton of hobbies and social gatherings, so even squeezing time in for dates seems nearly impossible. You’ve never had any issues with keeping busy and don’t feel the need to drop any of your hobbies just for a guy.
  8. Your career is way more exciting right now. Yes, it’s possible to balance both, but you’re a lot more career-focused than family focused and feel like your job will be something that sticks with you for years to come. It’s also in an industry that’d make having a husband and kids a little difficult. You’ve already put so much time into it and it makes you happy. It’s really a no-brainer as to what you’d choose if you had to.
  9. People are envious of your network of friends. There comes a time when all of us need to rely on someone else. For many, that’s where their partner comes in. But for you, you know that you have a wide amount of people you can call on if there’s anything you needed. You cherish your friendships so much that they’re truly the only relationships that are necessary for your life right now.
  10. You’re really happy. You’ve always taught yourself that happiness comes from within, and that’s probably why you’re so content. You’ve never depended on another person to make your life fulfilling. Sure, other people have managed to help your level of happiness, but you’ve never depended on them to lift your spirits. Everything you have in life is based on you and all the hard work you’ve accomplished.
Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.