10 Struggles Of Women Who Love Unconditionally

As women, one of our best traits is our sensitivity and ability to love. We naturally care about others and want to make their lives better in any way we can. For some of us, our caring nature and unconditional love actually become our downfall and cause several common struggles.

  1. We give people way too many chances. Not everyone deserves a second, third, or fourth chance, but we give them those chances anyway because it’s so hard for us to let go when we love someone.
  2. We want to have faith in other people so badly. That’s a struggle because many people don’t deserve faith, and it shakes us to our core when our faith in the goodness of people is let down once again.
  3. People tend to use/take advantage of us. We have generous hearts, and some people take that as an invitation to take advantage of us. When that happens, we vow to be less generous in the future but usually can’t follow through with that because it’s just not in our nature.
  4. We develop trust issues after people screw us over. Even worse, we sometimes develop guilt about our own trust issues because we really do want to trust people.
  5. We have a really hard time saying no when someone asks for a favor. Even if the person asking the favor has screwed us over before, it’s not in our nature to turn down someone who’s asking for help.
  6. We forgive people who definitely don’t deserve it. When someone wrongs us, others tell us that we should be on a warpath to destroy their life, but we just aren’t wired that way. Even though we’re legitimately angry, we don’t like holding onto negative feelings so forgiveness is in our nature.
  7. We don’t seek rightful vengeance, even when it might help us vent. We’re so nice that we just can’t take such a negative path, even against someone who hurt us. We realize that two wrongs don’t make a right, so we try to just let it go.
  8. We hold in our anger to spare others’ feelings, and it builds up. When we’ve been holding onto the anger for too long, it starts to eat away at our souls but we don’t enjoy confrontations, so we just push it down further until it feels like we’re about to explode.
  9. When we reach our limit and snap, people are shocked. We don’t like having negative reactions and scaring people, but everyone has a limit. If people don’t want to see our rare ugly side, they shouldn’t provoke it.
  10. We feel guilty about feeling angry, even when it’s justified. It’s hard for us to stand up for ourselves sometimes because it’s in our nature to prioritize others above ourselves, but we know when we have every right to be angry and when we would be perfectly justified in wanting an apology. Even then, we usually can’t find the strength to express those feelings.
Anna Martin Yonk is a freelance writer and blogger in sunny North Carolina. She loves hanging out with her goofy husband and two rescue dogs and can be found at the beach with a drink in hand whenever possible. You can find her on Instagram @mrsyonkdogmom or on her Facebook page.