Does He Think You’re “The One”? 10 Subtle Ways Guys Show They’re Serious About You

Some guys aren’t very good at putting their feelings into words, but there are ways to communicate that don’t always have to involve talking. As they say, actions speak louder than words, and that couldn’t be more true when you’re trying to figure out how serious your guy is about your relationship. Badgering a guy, giving him ultimatums about where your relationship is going, and constantly expecting him to say the “right” thing is probably going to leave you disappointed. But just because he doesn’t always say it, doesn’t mean he isn’t completely in love with you and in it for the long haul. You just have to be paying attention to the little things.

  1. He confides in you. If you’re the one he talks to when times get tough, that means he trusts and respects your opinion. Both those things are important if you want a relationship to stand the test of time. Also, if you’re the first person he tells when something really good happens, it’s because he wants to share his excitement with you more than anyone else.
  2. He’s comfortable being vulnerable around you. Even if he doesn’t do it often, when he does let down his guard around you, it’s because he knows you’re there for him and you won’t judge him. It probably takes a pretty awesome girl to make him feel that comfortable, so he knows you’re one of a kind.
  3. He puts you first. Even when he could be selfish, he opts to make sure your needs are taken care of before his own. He wants you to have everything you want because then it will be a lot more likely that you’ll stick around, and that’s exactly what he wants.
  4. He includes you in family things. You’re practically part of the family at this point and your presence at family functions is a given. He wants you to feel comfortable around them and vice versa, because he plans on keeping you around, and their opinion is important to him.
  5. He makes a real effort with your friends. A smart guy knows that a girl’s friends are almost like family to her. They can influence her and if they don’t like him, he’s in trouble. So to make sure he’s on their good side, he’ll go out of his way to be nice to them and get to know them. That way they’ll never have anything negative to say about him.
  6. He doesn’t even notice other girls when you’re around. Basically, he only has eyes for you and everyone knows it. He has no reason to keep his options open because he knows he’s found the right one already and he genuinely has no interest in anyone else.
  7. He brags about you. While his friends are complaining about how awful it is to have a girlfriend, your guy is busy telling them how amazing you are and how lucky he is. He even does it when you’re standing right there. His friends probably roll their eyes at him, but he doesn’t care. You’re awesome and he knows it.
  8. He’s affectionate. Everyone is affectionate in their own way, and he makes it clear in his that he’s attracted to you and he wants to be around you. Maybe he likes surprising you with your favorite dessert, or he’ll fix your leaky bathroom faucet without you asking. Whatever it is, he wouldn’t do it if he didn’t care about you.
  9. He’s always on your side. He’ll listen to you vent about work or the fight you’re having with your sister, and even if he doesn’t always agree with you, he lets you know he’s there for you anyway. There isn’t much he wouldn’t do for you and he makes it clear you can always count on him for whatever you need.
  10. He likes doing nothing with you. In a serious relationship, there’s always going to be a lot of downtime. You can’t be out on lavish dates and going on elaborate trips every day, right? So if you two can hang out at home with nothing more than pizza delivery and Netflix and there’s nowhere else he’d rather be, it’s official, he likes you. A lot.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to, contributes regularly to, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.