10 Things A Guy Wants In Bed But Won’t Ask For

You probably know how to please your partner but that doesn’t mean you don’t occasionally wonder if there’s more he’d like in bed but just isn’t saying. After all, he probably feels lucky to be getting laid in the first place and doesn’t want to press his luck by asking for even more, especially if his desires are in any way unconventional. However, if you want to blow his mind, try some of these things that most men want in bed but are too afraid to ask for.

A bit of sexy lingerie

Why wouldn’t men want to see you in sexy lingerie? It feels good and it looks great on a woman. Men are very visually inspired and when it comes to lingerie, it’s all good. Find something you love and makes you feel confident, add some high heels (the higher the better and since you’re going to be in bed, they don’t need to be comfortable) and some stockings. Your guy will think he has died and gone to heaven.

For you to take control

It doesn’t have to be every time you have sex, but at least some of the time, you should take over. Let him lie back and enjoy the pleasure you give him. You don’t have to tie him up (although he might like that) – just let him know he can relax and just focus on enjoying the things you’re going to do to and for him.

Your submission

On the other end of the scale, he enjoys it when you surrender yourself to him. It shows trust, and that’s a turn-on. Before you do this, talk about soft and hard limits. If you’re going to get a little kinky and break out the Fifty Shades toys, you might want to have a safe word too.

Dirty talk

Yes, men are mostly turned on by visuals, but the sound of your voice telling him what you want or what feels good, using the dirtiest words you can come up with makes him crazy with lust. If the thought of talking dirty makes you feel weird, practice. When you’re alone, say the things you want to say in bed until you feel more comfortable saying them out loud. You might even start off with dirty text messaging and graduate to saying naughty things out loud in bed.

For you to tell him what you want

There’s nothing a man finds hotter than a woman who has the confidence to express her needs in bed, in the kitchen, or the car. Tell him where you want it and how you want it. Men don’t always know what you expect from them, so don’t be afraid to say so if he’s off by a couple notches. Verbally and physically guide him. Better yet, show him.


You can express your pleasure in a lot of ways, but keeping quiet isn’t one of them. Moan and groan. Move your body. Tell him what feels great. Respond in any way that feels natural, but if he does something that feels good, let him know.

For you to ask him what he wants

Come right out and ask him if there’s anything he wants to do in bed with you. If you talk about it, there are sure to be at least some things that you both want to do together. If it doesn’t terrify you, try it once. Be open to trying things you’ve never considered before. That being said, don’t do anything you don’t want to do.

More oral

Almost every man in the world wants more oral sex. Learn to have fun with it. It doesn’t always have to be a strenuous bobbing of the head. Use your tongue. Go slow. Get messy. Focus on specific points. Play with the boys (with your hands or mouth). Give without the expectation of receiving. Perform oral on him while receiving. Mix it up as much as you want, but more oral is always a good thing.

For you to get on top

Yes, get on top. Sure, if you’re not used to it, riding cowgirl can be uncomfortable, but when you understand how much he loves the view, you’ll start to feel like a sex goddess. It doesn’t matter if you ride him slow or fast. He loves it. And if you’re feeling adventurous, turn around for some reverse cowgirl and give him an extraordinary view.

Some fun with toys

Start by showing him how you use them. Close your eyes and forget that he’s there and let him watch how you please yourself. He’ll love that you are letting yourself be so vulnerable to him. Once you’re comfortable letting him watch, open the toy box for him and let him play.

Men love sex, but it can always be better for both of you. The key to giving him what he wants but is afraid to ask for is opening your mind. Let him know you want to know what he wants. Remember that once the conversation about what he wants gets started, it will lead into what you really want. It’s a win-win situation!

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