10 Things Strong Women Never Feel Guilty About


1. Saying no

As great as it would be if there were a million hours in a day and they could be in 100 different places at once, that’s not reality. Strong women have no desire to be everything to everyone — it’s not their responsibility and they’re just not here for it. While they’ll try to help people whenever they can, there are times when they know they don’t have time or energy for something — or they simply don’t want to do it. In that case, they have no problem saying no.

2. Cutting toxic people out of their lives

If you’re not adding something to a strong woman’s life, don’t expect to stay there for long. This doesn’t mean that she’s a compulsive taker — she’s prepared to give just as much as she gets out of any relationship — but that those who bring unnecessary drama, grief, stress, or that make her feel emotionally drained or unappreciated will be nipped in the bud. She has to protect her energy.

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4. Pursuing their passions

They know that you only live once and you have to make the most of it while you’re here. There are certain things strong women know can’t be avoided: hard work, housework, taxes, and other adulting responsibilities. However, they’re not willing to wade around in the drudgery. Instead, they pursue their passions in order to bring meaning to their lives, and they don’t care whether other people think they’re silly, strange, or pointless.

5. Setting boundaries and holding people to them

Strong women will never feel guilty about having healthy expectations and boundaries in place and holding people to them. They have a strong grasp on their own self-worth and refuse to let anyone treat them with anything less than the utmost respect and consideration. That’s not to say they’re unreasonable or unwilling to compromise — they just won’t deal with people treating them like crap.

6. Being upfront and honest

The truth can sometimes be jarring or hard to hear, but that doesn’t keep these women from saying it like it is. They’re never unnecessarily harsh or crass, but they do think it’s important to say what they mean and mean what they so. They know mincing words or sugarcoating truths will only lead to misunderstandings or unnecessary conflict in the future, so they’d rather clear the air now by being blunt.

7. Enjoying their own company

Strong women aren’t always extroverted ones. While they might have a solid social circle of great friends, they relish time in their own company. Not only do they need it to relax and recharge, but they also really enjoy being on their own. It’s not lonely or isolating — it actually makes them feel more alive and in touch with themselves. People might not get it, but oh well.

8. Refusing to settle for anything less than the best

Their unwavering perseverance and insistence on reaching the pinnacle of anything they endeavor can be baffling or even obnoxious to some people, but strong women will never feel guilty about this. They’re aware of their own potential and capabilities and plan to use them to their maximum. With hard work, a bit of intelligence, and a refusal to give up even when faced with adversity, they have every belief they’ll get there, too.

9. Marching to the beat of their own drum

Who cares if they’re a bit weird or venture off the beaten track with their methodology? Strong women have enough self-confidence and belief to never feel guilty about doing things their own way. The status quo might work, but in being willing to try new things and think outside the box, who knows what amazing things they might achieve?

10. Putting their own needs first

This shouldn’t be seen as them being selfish — it’s actually the opposite. They’re extremely thoughtful and giving to others, but they’re also well aware that if they’re not feeling well mentally, emotionally, and physically, there’s no way they can give to others. This means they know when to focus on themselves rather than everyone else, no matter how much pressure is being put on them. If people don’t like it, that’s their problem.

11. Being completely independent and self-sufficient

Strong women take pride in being able to look after themselves and they won’t have anyone (read: insecure guys) make them feel guilty for it. They know how to ask for help when they need it, but they’ll never rely on anyone else to support them financially, nor will they ever feel like they need a relationship to be whole.

12. Taking time for self-care

Self-care is soul-care for strong women, and they always set time aside to commune with their deepest selves and check in. They do little things on a regular basis that make them feel calm, content, and whole. Whether that’s going to the gym, reading a book, or maybe even loafing around on the couch watching “The Kardashians,” they recognize the importance of being in a good place and they make it a priority.

Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill