10 Ways You Change When You Just Can’t Deal With Crappy Dates Anymore

The dating process can be a real headache sometimes, so it’s understandable that a single girl looking for love might end up disheartened after a while. But even if you’re sick and tired of going out with guys who aren’t worth your time, it’s important to keep your chin up and continue moving forward. If you find yourself experiencing these things as a result of your dating life, it might be time for an attitude adjustment:

  1. You feel like there’s no point. Of course you’re not going to end up in a relationship with every new guy you meet, especially because you won’t even see most of them again. But you should never be so down on dating that you think there is no point in even trying. Despite all the bad dates and weird moments, you should still want to meet someone and believe that love exists.
  2. You get frustrated with every move you make. You asked someone out and they said no. You turned down a second date, then regretted it, then realized it was too late to do anything about it. You go weeks without a single date and wonder what’s happening. When you’re getting frustrated all the time, you have to snap out of it. And fast. Dating is never so bad that you can’t cut yourself some slack.
  3. You compare until you go crazy. Whether you’re comparing your single life to the time when you had a serious boyfriend, or you’re wondering why all your best friends seem to find relationships like it’s no big deal, you’re making things harder than they have to be. Comparing yourself to your friends or who you were in the past just isn’t worth it.
  4. You pressure yourself. When you don’t have any first dates lined up, you hate yourself for it. You think you must be doing something wrong because you don’t have a boyfriend to show for all your efforts. You just don’t get why you’re not coupled up already. When you put this kind of pressure on yourself, you’re doing the opposite of what you should be. Accept that love will happen when it’s supposed to.
  5. You never look forward to anything. You’re so sick of dating that you never think you’re going to have any fun, you never want to meet anyone new, and you never get excited for first dates. While you may think this is smart since you’re not getting your hopes up, you’re making dating suck more than it needs to. A little optimism definitely won’t hurt your chances at finding something real.
  6. You drag your friends down. Suddenly, your best friends hate talking to you about dating. You make them as depressed as you are, and that’s just not cool. You don’t have to tell them that they’re going to have a fairytale love story, but you should probably try to be a good friend. If not, who are you going to vent to after you go on a particularly crappy date?
  7. You judge every little thing. People aren’t perfect, and that includes the guys you date. If you get super annoyed on first dates because you can’t believe how imperfect they seem, you’re just making it worse. You need to back off a bit and try to see people for who they are. These guys might not be fairy tale princes, but they have to have SOME good qualities, right?
  8. You get crazy insecure. When you start blaming yourself for your bad dates or single status, you know that you’re making dating suck more than it needs to. You have absolutely nothing to feel awful about. You’re just being you and trying to find love in this crazy world.
  9. You complain too much. Sure, dating can be pretty frustrating sometimes. But that’s really no reason to whine so much that you drive everyone nuts. If you complain more about dating than you actually go on dates, you have a problem.
  10. You lose faith in finding love. You can’t date without having faith in the process. Okay, well, you can, but you’re going to get seriously depressed. Try to believe that you’ll meet someone amazing, and you might just find someone who not only meets your expectations but exceeds them. Before you know it, you’ll have found a guy who can make all those bad dates worth it.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.