11 Signs Your Ex Is Only Pretending To Be Over You

Many people assume that a breakup completely severs a relationship and ends the connection between two people. You and your ex might decide to go your separate ways and call it a day, but is your ex really done with you and ready to move on, or is it all an act? Here’s how you know they’re only pretending to be over you and are still hanging onto some lingering feelings.

They continue to contact you. 

One of the biggest signs that your ex isn’t over you is if they stay in contact with you on a regular and consistent basis after your relationship ends. It doesn’t matter what they’re getting in touch about. Whether it’s to try and bring up random conversation, to check in with you, or because they want to pick a fight, they’re reaching in touch because they haven’t let go of you or your relationship yet.

They search for excuses to see you. 

Chances are, your ex knows where you work, live, and the places you tend to frequent most often. If you find them just magically showing up in the places you go most often or even finding excuses to try and meet up with you, there’s a good chance they’re not over you yet. When someone is obsessed or fixated on someone, they’ll stop at nothing to be around them and gather more information about their day-to-day.

They maintain relationships with your loved ones.

If you’re in a serious long-term relationship with someone, it’s only natural that you’ll become close to the people that matter the most to them in life. However, once that relationship is over, it can be very uncomfortable for your ex to still have relationships with the people you’re close to. Their motivation behind keeping in touch with your friends and family could be to keep tabs on you and what you’re doing because they’re not over you yet.

They keep things of yours. 

If your ex still has things of yours that they seem to be refusing to give back to you, it could mean a couple of different things, but it’s definitely a sign that they’re not over you yet. Whether it’s because they want an excuse for you to keep contacting them or if it’s simply because they don’t want to part with all of their memories of you, holding onto things like clothes, pictures, personal items, etc. is definitely sus.

They stalk your social media. 

Stalking your social media is a big one. Obviously, there are ways that people can hide their stalking habits (c’mon, we’ve all done it before), but if you’re seeing signs of your ex constantly viewing your stories and liking your pictures, chances are, they just aren’t over you yet. If they were, they wouldn’t feel the need to constantly be checking up on you.

They seem angry with you.

If your ex seems to be extremely angry at you post-breakup, even if it was a mutual decision, it’s a sign of unresolved feelings. Anger takes passion, and if they seem furious with you or resentful if you’re trying to move on, the reason could be that they’re still in love with you and don’t know how to process their feelings. When someone is truly over someone else, they’re able to move on with their life without any anger or resentment because they’ve made peace with the fact that what they had is over.

They pretend to be happy. 

If your ex still seems to be keeping tabs on you and trying to stay in contact with you but also seems to have amped up their social life since your breakup, it’s a definitely a sign to look out for. If your ex is making it overtly obvious that they’re going out, having fun, and are completely fine without you but then still calling you and trying to see you, they’re just putting up a front.

They talk smack about you.

Another sure sign that your ex isn’t over you is if they can’t seem to stop talking about you behind your back. If they tell all of your mutual friends that it was all your fault, that you’re a terrible person, or even make up lies and rumors about you, try not to let it get to you too much. They’re just acting out because they haven’t let go of your relationship yet and they’re expressing it in a very unsavory way.

They can’t move on. 

If your ex can’t seem to move on with anyone else, regardless of the length of time you’ve been broken up, it’s a sign that they can’t get over their feelings for you. They might still be holding out hope that the two of you will get back together and want to remain available for that. They might know, deep down, that you won’t be getting back together but they just can’t seem to develop feelings for anyone else. Whatever their reasoning is, if they’re not moving on, they’re still stuck on you.

They try to play the sympathy card. 

Another tactic an ex might use to keep you around and stay in your life is by trying to earn your sympathy or guilt. They might constantly reach out to you and talk about how sad they are about losing you. They might try to make you feel guilty for the breakup and point the finger at you claiming that you’re the reason the relationship failed. This could just be a ploy to stay in your life.

They try to win you back. 

The most obvious sign that your ex isn’t really over you is if they try to convince you to get back together. When a relationship ends and one person isn’t over it and isn’t ready to let go, their first reaction will most likely be to try and convince the other person that you can work it out and the breakup is unnecessary. If you’ve been broken up but your ex proceeds to try and win you back over time and doesn’t seem to want to give up no matter how many times you reject them, it’s pretty safe to say that they’re not over you yet.

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