Does He Miss You? 10 Signs He Wishes He Had You Back, According To A Guy

It’s hard to imagine a breakup that doesn’t involve at least one person wanting to get back together at some point. After all, it’s natural to miss your ex after breaking up with them even if you know the relationship wasn’t right. Since most guys aren’t always forthright when it comes to sharing their feelings, I thought I’d share with you ladies some of the signs that a guy wishes he had another chance with you.

  1. He stays in touch. Not all guys are eager to stay in touch with their ex after a breakup, especially at the beginning, but if he misses you and wants to create hope of a reunion, he’ll make an effort to stay in touch. If you’re cold and unenthusiastic to talk to him and he still keeps messaging you and even asking to hang out, it’s obvious that he’s still hung up on you.
  2. He creates excuses to see you. Guys often accuse women of desperate, stalkerish behavior, but some of us are guilty of it too. Guys who are will come up with a bad excuse for why they need to see you or just show up someplace where you often go. Keep in mind that your ex will know you well. This makes it a little easier for him to drop by your favorite bar or coffee shop in hopes of seeing you. When that happens, it usually isn’t a coincidence, and if he went through the trouble, he isn’t over you.
  3. He’s nervous around you. Nervousness is always a sign that somebody likes you. If you remember him being nervous around you when he first met you, that will likely return after your break up if he still has lingering feelings. Even if he doesn’t realize it, nervous energy is a sign that wants you back. On the contrary, an ex who is calm and nonchalant has probably moved on.
  4. He drunk dials you. Okay, this one is obvious, but I’ll mention it anyway. Even if he still harbors feelings for you, he knows better than to text you. But when he’s been drinking, all bets are off. His inhibitions are down and he might be a little more courageous. Plus, he’s not in complete control of his actions, which means his emotions will take over. That means if he misses you, his drunk mind will want to call or text you.
  5. He hangs around with your family and friends. Ideally, people don’t need to take sides after a breakup, but I think we all know that’s usually not the case. That means if he’s still making an effort to spend time with your friends or family members, he’s not over you. He wouldn’t do that unless he had hopes of getting you back. Otherwise, it’d be awkward. If nothing else, he’s trying to stay in your orbit because he misses you and wants you to miss him back.
  6. He tries to remind you of your relationship. You can always tell when a guy isn’t over your relationship because he wants to talk about it. He wouldn’t be doing this if he didn’t miss you. This is also a common tactic guys use when they’re trying to get you back. You should never underestimate the power of nostalgia, and clever guys know this.
  7. His social media account is active. There are two options here. First, he might be liking your photos and posts like mad because he’s stalking you online. I think that one’s self-explanatory. Meanwhile, he could also be posting a ton of pictures of himself having fun as a way of getting your attention. It’s a rather immature response, but a guy who misses you probably doesn’t have many other ways of dealing with his feelings. He’ll do anything to get your attention and make you miss him as much as he misses you.
  8. He can’t hide his jealousy. If your ex misses you and wants you back, how could he not be jealous? Even if you don’t have a new boyfriend, he’ll be wary of any guy who gets within five feet of you. If he seriously wishes you were back together, he won’t be able to hide his jealousy if he sees you with another guy.
  9. He pressures you to remain friends. Most guys typically prefer a clean break after a relationship. They don’t want to dwell on things unless they’re not over you and want to get back together. If your ex pushes you to hang out as “just friends,” it’s not a stretch to think that he misses you. He’ll look for any excuse to be around you and convince you to see him in hopes that the window is still open for a reunion.
  10. He’s not in a serious relationship. In a way, a guy is never fully over someone until he begins a new relationship. Of course, this doesn’t apply to casual, short-term flings. Even if a guy has a string of casual flings, he might still miss you. He’s just trying to numb his pain while also staying single just in case. Likewise, if he refuses to date anyone else at all, it’s likely that he wants you back.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.