13 Behaviors That Make Someone Really Unpleasant To Be Around

13 Behaviors That Make Someone Really Unpleasant To Be Around

In our daily lives, we’re going to run into different types of people with completely different personalities, some more bearable than others. However, those with these traits are downright unpleasant to be around and you’ll want to limit your time with them as much as possible.

1. All they do is complain.

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Dealing with someone who’s always on a complaining spree can feel like you’re in a never-ending loop of negativity. It’s like every conversation becomes a rundown of everything that’s wrong, with no room for the positive stuff. This constant negativity can be a real downer, especially if you’re trying to keep things light and upbeat. It’s important for them (and for all of us, really) to balance out the gripes with some good vibes too.

2. They’re selfish.

couple in an argument on the couch

Selfishness in someone can be a real vibe killer in any social setting. When someone is always looking out for number one, without much thought for others’ needs or feelings, it can create a sense of imbalance in interactions. It’s like they’re playing a solo game in a team sport. This behavior can lead to tension and conflict, as others may feel unappreciated or overlooked. It’s all about finding that sweet spot of looking out for yourself while being considerate of others.

3. All they do is gossip and talk smack about other people.

two colleagues gossiping at work desk

Someone who frequently gossips or speaks negatively about others can make for uncomfortable company. It’s like they’re more interested in spreading rumors or dishing dirt than having genuine conversations. This behavior can create an atmosphere of distrust – if they’re talking about others, what might they say about you when you’re not around? It’s about focusing on more positive and constructive topics of conversation, rather than falling into the gossip trap.

4. They lack empathy.

older businessman talking down to female employee

Empathy – the ability to understand and share the feelings of others – is super important in our interactions. When someone lacks empathy, they might seem disconnected from the emotions of those around them. It’s like they’re missing a key piece of the social puzzle, which can make interactions feel a bit cold or indifferent. Building empathy can lead to more meaningful and connected relationships.

5. They’re untrustworthy and unreliable.

woman being lectured by her mother

Trust and reliability are like the cornerstones of any good relationship. When someone constantly flakes out or doesn’t follow through on their promises, it can really erode trust. It creates uncertainty and disappointment, making it hard to rely on them for anything important. It’s about building trust through consistent and reliable actions – something we all need to work on.

6. They’re arrogant.

two female colleagues chatting during meeting

Arrogance is a surefire way to rub people the wrong way. When someone comes across as overly confident to the point of dismissing everyone else, it makes your interactions totally imbalanced. It’s like they’re playing their own trumpet while everyone else’s band is on mute. A dash of humility and the ability to appreciate others can make interactions much more pleasant.

7. They talk all the time and they’re way too loud.

bored man yawning as girlfriend speaks

Ever been around someone who just dominates every conversation with their loud voice? It can be overwhelming and leave little space for anyone else to get a word in. It’s like they have a solo spotlight, with everyone else just background actors. Good conversation is about give and take, and recognizing when to step back and listen is as important as sharing your own thoughts.

8. They lack consideration for other people.

two female friends arguing on the couch

Inconsiderate behavior – like interrupting, not paying attention when others are speaking, or just being plain rude – can make hanging out with someone less enjoyable. It’s about respecting others in the group and understanding that everyone deserves a chance to be heard and considered. A little thoughtfulness can make a big difference in how we get along with others.

9. They don’t respect other people.

man lecturing woman at dinner table

Respect is the glue that holds our social interactions together. When someone shows a blatant lack of respect, whether through their words or actions, it can be jarring and disrespectful. This behavior can create an uncomfortable atmosphere and make others hesitant to engage. Showing basic respect is key to any positive interaction.

10. They have no sense of humor and take themselves way too seriously.

woman dismissing her friend's opinions

A good laugh can really lighten up any interaction. But if someone doesn’t really vibe with humor or tends to take everything seriously, it can make social situations feel more rigid. Humor is a great bonding tool and helps keep things light, even in tough situations. Not being able to laugh together can make for some pretty stiff interactions.

11. They lack social awareness.

man standing over woman at her desk

Social awareness is like having a good read on the room and understanding how to fit into different social situations. When someone lacks this, they might miss social cues or act in ways that are inappropriate for the setting. This lack of awareness can lead to awkward moments and misunderstandings. Being more attuned to social cues and norms can help make interactions smoother and more enjoyable.

12. They criticize every little thing.

man criticizing girlfriend in kitchen

Being around someone who is constantly dishing out criticism can be pretty tough. They have an incredible knack for pointing out flaws and mistakes, and they never balance it with any positive feedback. This constant criticism can make talking to them or being around them feel discouraging and can really chip away at people’s confidence. Constructive feedback is one thing, but when it’s all criticism, all the time, it can be a real downer.

13. They always need to be right, no matter what.

skeptical woman listening to man at cafe

Ever been around someone who just can’t stand to be wrong? It’s like every discussion has to end with them coming out on top. This need to always be right can turn even casual conversations into debates or arguments. It can be exhausting and frustrating, especially when there’s no room for other perspectives. Good communication is about listening and considering different viewpoints, not just about proving a point. It’s okay to let go of the reins sometimes and just enjoy a healthy exchange of ideas without the pressure of being right.

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Sinitta Weston grew up in Edinburgh but moved to Sydney, Australia to for college and never came back. She works as a chemical engineer during the day and at night, she writes articles about love and relationships. She's her friends' go-to for dating advice (though she struggles to take the same advice herself). Her INFJ personality makes her extra sensitive to others' feelings and this allows her to help people through tough times with ease. Hopefully, her articles can do that for you.
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