13 Promises My Ex Made Me That He Never Kept

He was smart, funny, charming, and the longer I was with him, the more certain I became that I’d finally found “The One.” Turns out, the only thing I found was one hell of a liar — all my ex ever did was make promises that he never intended to keep. Here are just a few of the ones he broke:

  1. That we would be together forever It was a promise I believed with my whole heart. I thought he was my forever person and that we’d always love and stick by each other, no matter how hard things got. Why? Because that’s what he told me. I stopped looking at other guys and other opportunities and focused on our relationship because he made me believe that he was my future.
  2. That his life couldn’t be happy without me in it He told me time and again how happy I made him and that he couldn’t even imagine being happy without me. He said that he didn’t want to imagine life without me because even the thought was just too painful. He acted like I was the thing that brought sunshine to his life, but now I’m gone and he seems just as happy.
  3. That he would never hurt me What a load of BS that was. He promised to never hurt me and the worst part is, I actually believed him. Out of everyone in my life, I thought he’d be the last person to cause me pain. He didn’t just break that promise, though — he shattered it just like he shattered my heart. He made a promise to never hurt me and in the end, he hurt me like no one ever had before.
  4. That I was and would always be his best friend If I were really his best friend, why wouldn’t I have also been his most important friend? For a long time, I was the person he confided in, the one who was always there for him. Then, suddenly, he didn’t need me anymore. He found new friends and it was more important to impress them than to maintain his relationship with me. So much for best friends forever…
  5. That he could never stop loving me He was so madly in love with me and he promised that he always would be, so when the day came where he told me that he didn’t love me anymore, what happened to that promise? Did his words mean nothing or did he only mean them at the time? Did he ever really love me? With so many broken promises, I don’t know how to figure out what was a straight out lie and what was actually real.
  6. That I was the only girl he ever wanted to be with He promised that I’d be the only girl he loved, but now he’s with another girl making that same promise. Not only did he promise I was the only girl he wanted to date, he said I was the only girl he ever wanted to sleep with. We were each other’s first, and after years of dating, he still promised he wanted me to be his first, last, and only. Apparently, considering his new relationship, that was just another lie.
  7. That he would put me first He promised that I was and would always be his top priority. The truth is I never was and I knew it all along. I always felt like I was the last thing he wanted to worry about. First, it was his career that came first, which at one point I understood, but then he compromised all his hard work for new friends he barely knew. I wasn’t first, I wasn’t second. Regardless of his promise, I know I was dead last on his list of priorities.
  8. That he would be there for me whenever I needed him I was his rock throughout our relationship. He was going through a hard time in his life and I was there for him every step of the way. He was so grateful and he promised that he would always be there for me too. Then his life got better and mine got worse. Instead of being my floating device, he just let me drown.
  9. That he would never let other’s opinions cloud his judgment I didn’t get along with everyone in his life. Some of his friends thought that he should ditch me because he needed to experience the single life. He promised that their personal opinions on life and dating had no effect on his decisions and no matter what they said, he wanted to be with me. In the end, though, he let their words eat away at him until he was finally convinced that he needed to experience freedom and that if I really loved him, I’d wait for him.
  10. That we would get married He promised that someday he’d ask for my hand in marriage. He wanted to be the man standing at the end of the aisle and he wanted me to be the girl staring back at him. We both felt too young to get married but we had the promise of someday. He told me of all his dreams of me being his wife, but I guess over time that dream simply faded.
  11. That we’d have kids together He not only promised we’d someday be husband and wife, he also promised children. We picked out names and talked about which features of each other we hoped our future children would inherit. How was I supposed to know he didn’t mean a single word? He promised me motherhood. Alas, we’re not together and there are no children in sight.
  12. That we would grow old together We made so many plans together. We didn’t just talk about kids and marriage, we planned out our whole lives — where we’d live, what we’d do, even how we’d spend retirement. He wasn’t just giving me a couple years of his life. He was promising his whole life to me because, at the end of the day, he said the only thing that made a difference in his life was whether or not I was in it.
  13. That the one thing he couldn’t live without was me Just another BS lie. We broke up and haven’t spoken in quite some time, but he’s still kicking. He hasn’t dropped dead without me. In fact, he seems perfectly fine without me. He told me so many times that he couldn’t live and wouldn’t want to live without me, but if that were true, why is he still alive when we’re miles apart?
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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