14 Questions You’ll Never Have To Ask If He’s The Right Guy For You

14 Questions You’ll Never Have To Ask If He’s The Right Guy For You ©iStock/mixetto

When you’re in a relationship with a guy who really loves you, it’s refreshing AF. You don’t have loads of doubts or questions, and you don’t spend hours analyzing his mixed messages as though you’re working for the FBI. Here are some questions that won’t even cross your mind when you’ve found Mr. Right.

  1. Do you really love me? It sucks to be dating someone who you think loves you but you’re not 100 percent sure. The thing is, people show their love in different ways. What’s love to you might just be respect to him. But a guy who really loves you will show you without a doubt that he loves you—and he’ll say it too.
  2. Do I make you happy? He’ll be clear that you make him really happy every day. He’ll tell you that you do or he’ll repay the favor and try to make you happy by considering your needs and wants. If he’s making such an effort to keep you smiling, you know that he’s happy in the relationship. 
  3. Do I make your life better? You don’t just want to feel that the person you’re dating likes you. You want to be a part of their life they can’t imagine not having. You’ll see evidence that you make your guy’s life better when he loves you without having to ask him. For instance, you’ll see how you’ve helped him make better choices or he’ll talk about how lousy things are when you’re not around. 
  4. Do you see a future for us? Ah, this is something that crosses everyone’s mind when it feels like the relationship is heading to more serious waters. A guy who really loves you will make it clear that he sees a future with you. He’ll speak about it in terms of “we” instead of just “I.”
  5. Why haven’t you texted me in days? A guy who can disappear and do his own thing without being in touch with you isn’t serious about you. He’s certainly not making you feel like a priority in his life. A guy who loves you will want to speak to you regularly and include you in his life. You’ll never have to wonder why he’s AWOL.
  6. Did your ex do this better? It might be tempting to know what his sex life with previous exes was like, but don’t go there! It makes you come across as insecure, and besides—the right guy will be vocal about how much he loves what you’re doing and tell you you’re the best he’s ever had, inside and outside the bedroom.
  7. Do you want this relationship to move forward? Having The Talk is the most uncomfortable thing in a relationship. Sometimes, just wanting to ask the guy where he sees your relationship going is usually a sign that it’s going nowhere. Why? You wouldn’t have to ask because he’d already have moved towards new relationship milestones.
  8. Are you going to marry me? You’ve been dating for months or years and things are serious. Your boyfriend will be thinking about things like marriage, or a life partnership if he’s not keen to get hitched. Either way, he’ll be speaking to you about these things because he wants to take the next step with you.
  9. How do I know you won’t leave? This question is more about you than him. By asking this, you’re basically saying you can’t trust him or you have fears that your great relationship will somehow end. The right guy won’t make you feel you have to ask this—he’ll make it clear that he’s here to stay by showing his commitment.
  10. Will you text me when you get home? Sure, you worry about him traveling home when it’s late, but this is something that you really shouldn’t have to ask your boyfriend to do. It feels mothering, plus it should be something he chooses to do on his own without you having to ask. If he loves you, he’ll text you regularly to say that he had a great time and can’t wait to see you again or that he loves you, and those surprise texts are so much better.
  11. Don’t you even know why I’m angry with you? Your boyfriend’s not psychic, but he doesn’t have to be. If he really cares about your feelings, he’ll ask you if you’re angry instead of ignoring signs that you might still be mad after a fight. He wants to be sure things are great between you.
  12. I’m going to see my folks this weekend. Wanna come? Once you’ve been in a relationship for longer than a few months, you might start to feel that you’d like to introduce your partner to your loved ones. This should definitely be happening when you’ve expressed love for each other, but he’ll take the lead if he wants to be a part of your life.
  13. Will you come help me? You’re going through a really tough time in your life and don’t want to have to go through it without your partner’s love and support. If he really loves you, he won’t wait for you to ask him this question because he’ll be standing beside you, ready to catch you if you fall.
  14. Can you do what you say? It’s frustrating AF to deal with a man who says one thing and then does another. But a guy who loves you won’t give you mixed messages. His words will match his actions vice versa. He’ll focus on giving you clarity and truth, without any games or wishy-washy behavior. He’s the real deal.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.