14 Secrets Of Happy Women

Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need a hot boyfriend, loads of money, or a supermodel figure to be happy. Happy women are about so much more than that. They’re fun to be around, they always boost your mood, and they know how to take control of their own destiny. What’s their secret? They do the following 14 things.

  1. They boot negative people. It’s really hard to stay positive and happy when you have negative people dragging you down and stomping on your dreams. Happy women don’t have time for that! You’ll find them gravitating towards other happy people. Hey, happiness is contagious!
  2. They move on. A happy woman won’t stress herself out because her friend was mean to her or her crush blocked her on a dating app. She’ll feel hurt for a minute but then dust off her sparkly shoes and hit the dance floor.
  3. They know how to make themselves happy. The thing about happy women is that they know how to make themselves happy. The genuinely happy people out there aren’t waiting on some guy or some cool weekend plans to make them feel good. They’re the CEO of their own happiness, which means they can create it any time, anywhere.
  4. They limit their time on social media. Spending too long on Twitter and Facebook can make you start to feel down, but the happy women out there know that they have to take what they see online with a pinch of salt and that real happiness is found around them, not from behind a smartphone screen.
  5. They don’t strive to be perfect. If you’re always looking for perfection in everything, including yourself, it can cause you to be seriously unhappy. Happy women know that they should do their best and see what happens instead of trying to control everything or working themselves to death. That never made anyone happy.
  6. They accept their flaws. They might not be particularly excited about the cellulite underneath their boobs or how they can be clingy in relationships, but they’re not beating themselves up about it. They’re embracing who they are and working on improving what they don’t like about themselves without self-hatred.
  7. They know how to get closure. It sucks to come to the end of a relationship and not have closure from the person who suddenly wanted to end things or ghosted you, but happy women know that closure isn’t always on the table. They know that sometimes they have to give themselves that closure instead of expecting it from cowards. This enables them to process their feelings and move on to better things.
  8. They know happiness is a choice. No matter what’s happening in your life right now, you can still find joy. It’s all around you and happy women know this to be true. That’s probably why your permanently happy friend can still enjoy girls’ night even though she’s going through a tough divorce. Just because one area of her life is dark and depressing at the moment, it doesn’t have to be a black cloud over the others.
  9. They maintain their standards. They might be smitten with a guy, but if he violates their standards, he’s out. Happy women want to remain happy and they’re not going to sell their happiness in exchange for a miserable life. It’s just not going to happen. They know their worth.
  10. They give back. Happy women know that it feels good to reach out and help others. It’s not only selfless—it makes them happy too! When you can make someone’s day a little brighter, you’ll realize the true meaning of happiness. Hint: it’s not in buying new shoes (well, not always).
  11. They care about their needs. If you don’t care about your needs, who will? Happy women know that if they want to feel fulfilled, they have to be bold enough to speak up about their needs and make them a priority. They know that if they push their needs onto the back burner all the time, they’ll always feel like they’re not where they want to be.
  12. They break the rules. Happy women are confident. They break the rules if the rules don’t do them justice without worrying about how they’ll be perceived. They know what they want and they’re not afraid to get it – or at least try. Best of all, they don’t hold themselves back.
  13. They choose their own adventures. You won’t find a happy woman following a guy on his adventures. She’ll be chasing down her own adventures and finding her own happiness, and only after that will she spare a thought or two for who she should choose as her forever person to join in. Still, her happiness won’t depend on that person. It never does.
  14. Happy women can go it alone. Independent women are happy and vice versa, and this makes them a force in this world. They control their destiny, depend on themselves, and make things happen for themselves without waiting for other people. They’re not afraid to do things on their own and be alone. It’s liberating and exciting. This is probably because they create their own happiness.

Doing all of these things isn’t necessarily easy and happiness isn’t so much a destination as it is a journey, as cliche as that sounds. Making strides towards being your most authentic, amazing self will help get you there, so don’t give up.

Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.