15 Amazing Things About You That Make It Harder To Settle

People say it’s crazy AF that you’re still single when you’re so hot, amazing, and fun to be around. There are reasons you’re still rolling solo but they don’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. In fact, it’s actually the opposite.

  1. You don’t back down. You refuse to lower your standards even an inch. It’s not that you’re unwilling to compromise but you know that your values won’t be compromised on because you matter more than a guy. It’s not your fault so many guys don’t meet your standards but it IS their loss.
  2. You don’t give second chances. If you meet someone and they hurt you, you don’t go back to them. They get one chance or they’re out. People might call you “too picky” but you know that some people don’t deserve second chances. If he messed up, he can GTFO. Next!
  3. You don’t need a man. It might sound defensive when you use this as a reason for why you’re single but it’s true! You know that you’re doing great on your own and don’t need to have a relationship to feel better or give your life meaning.
  4. You already have everything you need. You don’t feel excited about men who treat you well because you do all that stuff for yourself. So really, your glass is overflowing with self-love. You’re not really sure what guys are supposed to bring to your life and if you do find a reason for them to be around, it doesn’t have to be forever.
  5. You play hard to get. It’s scary how this comes up as a negative reason for why some women are single, but you know what? It’s a good thing. Playing hard to get, like not making yourself too available, weeds out the losers and jerks.
  6. You’re intimidating. Yes, guys have called you intimidating before and you’ve wondered what the hell it really means. Here’s the answer: they’re insecure little a-holes. You’d rather date a guy who’s confident and appreciates all that makes you amazing than settle for a guy who doesn’t know how to handle you.
  7. You don’t get out there. You just don’t feel like hitting the dating scene, and why should you? It’s a myth to think that just because you’re single you need to be dating.
  8. You have big expectations. You’re not hoping to meet Channing Tatum and marry him, but if you’re going to date again you want it to be really, really special. If you think about it, you’ll see that waiting for a Great Love isn’t actually a big expectation. There’s enough in the world that’s boring—love definitely shouldn’t be.
  9. You don’t need a relationship to validate your hotness. Guys say, “But you’re so gorgeous! How are you single?” as though your hotness has the sole purpose of finding you a guy. Whatever. You know you’re attractive, but you don’t need a boyfriend to make you feel attractive. You work hard on being healthy, fit, and confident, and that’s where your true beauty lies.
  10. You put your happiness in the number one spot. You don’t stick around in friendships or relationships that don’t make you happy. Honestly, why should you? You know that there’ll be bad times in relationships, but if the bad outweighs the good, you’re crazy to stay—not crazy to head back to single life.
  11. You’re smartYou can spot a toxic guy from a mile away. You follow your gut when dating to steer clear of the assholes and time-wasters. You’re smart enough to know that being single is always better than being with someone who’s bad news.
  12. You’re fabulous. Friends tell you how amazing you are and how you’d make any guy super happy. Yeah, you know it. But let’s be real: it’s not easy to find a guy who’s as supportive, loyal, and decent as you are. You make sure the people you allow into your life only bring goodness to it. The result? Your life is full and happy.
  13. You’re not a chaser. Maybe you’re single even though you’re amazing because you’re not the type of person to chase a guy. This is a good thing—you should never degrade yourself and you’re certainly not desperate. If a guy can’t make the effort with you and he doesn’t impress you, why would you change your life around to accommodate him? Oh hell no.
  14. You rejected Mr. Right. You meet wonderful guys all the time. In fact, just last week Mr. Right came along and you shut him down. Seriously, you’re not looking for a relationship. In the same way that platform shoes aren’t everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone wants to climb Mt. Everest, you’re simply not interested in having a relationship because your resources are meant to go elsewhere—straight into your life and dreams.
  15. You’ve got bigger goals than being someone’s girlfriendYou’ve got more important goals than finding Mr. Right on Tinder. You’re building a freaking empire, damn it. Right now that’s more important, and who knows? It might be more important forever, which suits you just fine.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.