15 Things Only The “Weird” Kid Will Understand About Friendship

15 Things Only The “Weird” Kid Will Understand About Friendship

If you ever felt like the odd one out, the kid who just didn’t quite fit in, you’re not alone. Those “weird kids” see the world a little differently, and that includes friendships. They might experience deeper connections, have a stronger sense of individuality, and sometimes have a tougher time making those connections in the first place. Let’s dive into the unique experiences of the “weird” kids when it comes to friendship.

1. You cherish the few friends you have.

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Being the weird kid might mean a smaller social circle, but those few friends? They’re your lifeline. You love them fiercely because they accept and celebrate your weirdness. Those bonds run deep, and you know those are the friends you’ll still be laughing with decades down the line. Research (via PsychCentral) suggests that you only need three to five good friends to be happy in life, and you know just how true this is.

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2. Your idea of “fun” might be unconventional.

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Forget the popular parties or hanging at the mall. You bond over your shared passions, whether it’s building elaborate blanket forts, dissecting comic books, or having epic Nerf battles. The best memories are made with those who share your offbeat sense of humor and willingness to just be yourselves.

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3. Small talk is torture.

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Who cares about the weather when you could deep dive into your latest alien conspiracy theory? Surface-level chit-chat feels pointless when you crave real conversations about the stuff that lights you up. Finding people who enjoy those deep dives as much as you do is a total game-changer. Who wants to talk about the weather, anyway?

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4. Being misunderstood is the norm.

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Per a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, being misunderstood can be stressful and upsetting — and it’s not hard to see why. People think your quietness is standoffishness, your jokes land with awkward silence, and your enthusiasm is just plain weird. You learn to embrace the fact that not everyone’s gonna “get” you. But the real connections, when they happen, are even sweeter because you know that person sees and appreciates your true weirdness.

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5. Your brain works in a totally different (and pretty cool) way.

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Your brain is constantly overflowing with bizarre connections and oddball ideas. You’ll go from talking about philosophy to your pet iguana’s fashion sense in the same sentence. It’s confusing for other people but hilarious for you. The best kind of friendships are the ones where those mental leaps feel not just accepted but celebrated.

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6. Loyalty is everything.

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You know what it’s like to be different, so you’d never judge someone based on popularity or appearances. The friends you make are true-blue, the kind who’d fight a dragon for you (or at least start a very passionate debate about dragon anatomy). You fiercely protect these friendships because you know how rare and precious they are.

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7. Imagination is your superpower.

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When real life’s a bit dull, you retreat into your own elaborate fantasy worlds. Your friends don’t just join in – they help build the universe, adding their own unique characters and plot twists. Collaborative world-building? That’s a level of awesome only your fellow “weird” kids understand.

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8. Finding your people takes a while.

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Fitting in isn’t even on your radar. You’re on a quest to find those who understand the beauty in your weirdness, and it might take some time. But once you find your tribe, the feeling of belonging is unlike anything else.

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9. You’re a pro at entertaining yourself.

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You’ve never relied on others to have fun. Your imagination and quirky hobbies fill up your time, meaning you’re perfectly fine going solo when needed. This self-sufficiency is a valuable trait, even when you do have amazing friends to hang with. Never being dependent on others for entertainment grants you a sense of freedom and confidence.

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10. Being yourself is non-negotiable.

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Trying to squeeze yourself into the “popular” mold feels exhausting. You decided a long time ago that authenticity is way cooler than following the crowd. This unwavering sense of self is magnetic to the right kind of people. Living unapologetically as yourself sets a powerful example and inspires other people to do the same. Authenticity rules.

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11. Observations, not gossip, are your social currency.

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You notice the details others miss – the weird bumper sticker, the classmate’s constantly changing hair color. These observations lead to hilarious commentary, not malicious gossip. Your quirky observations become inside jokes and bring a playful lightheartedness to your friendships. Plus, your keen eye for the absurdity of everyday life becomes a source of endless entertainment for you and your friends.

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12. You redefine “normal.”

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Scientists agree that it’s impossible to quantify “normality” in any real way. Socially speaking, however, “normal” is boring! You embrace your love for sci-fi, your vintage clothing obsession, or your encyclopedic knowledge about frog species. This confidence attracts like-minded friends. Celebrating your individuality is a superpower and inspires those around you to embrace their own unique quirks. Your group of friends becomes a haven where everyone feels comfortable letting their weird flags fly.

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13. Intensity is how you roll.

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Whether you’re geeking out over the latest fandom or passionately debating social issues, you’re all in. Your enthusiasm is contagious, even if it sometimes overwhelms more low-key pals. The right friends embrace your energy and match it with their own, creating dynamic and unforgettable experiences. They know that your passion is part of what makes you so unique and lovable.

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14. You’re surprisingly good at advice.

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Your outside-the-box perspective lets you see solutions that most other people tend to miss. When your friends have problems, your advice is refreshingly insightful and untainted by typical social expectations. This ability to offer a unique perspective strengthens your friendships and helps your loved ones see things in a whole new light. Your willingness to think differently makes you an invaluable confidant.

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15. “Weird” is the best compliment.

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You’ve learned to own your quirks because that’s what makes you truly special. When someone calls you “weird,” you smile. They’re right, and you wouldn’t have it any other way. Embracing your weirdness is like your secret weapon, making you more memorable, interesting, and ultimately, happier.

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Harper Stanley graduated from Eugene Lang College at The New School in NYC in 2006 with a degree in Media Studies and Literature and Critical Analysis. After graduating, she worked as an editorial assistant at The Atlantic before moving to the UK to work for the London Review of Books.

When she's not waxing poetic about literature, she's writing articles about dating, relationships, and other women's lifestyle topics to help make their lives better. While shocking, she really has somehow managed to avoid joining any social media apps — a fact she's slightly smug about.