You meet a great guy who’s fun-loving and spontaneous. He makes you laugh until your sides hurt, but then something changes. He disappears when life gets tough for you or he never wants to commit because he’s content with a casual setup. The more you get to know him, the more you see he has the maturity level of your five-year-old nephew, and it’s draining you. Enough! Here are 15 types of guys to avoid ’cause they’re never going to man up.
1. The party addict
This guy wheels you around to all the hottest parties in town. If there’s a new club opening or a friend’s house party, he’ll be the first one there. Although it’s fun being with this guy, it’s also exhausting (besides, you get sore feet from wearing heels every night!). If he’s always partying up a storm then sleeping in late the next day and nursing a hangover on repeat, he needs a bit of a wake-up call. This behavior was cute in his early 20s, but he’s older now and needs to show it a little.
2. The thrill chaser tk
Some guys become addicted to the chase in life. These thrill seekers love the early dating stages because it’s filled with butterflies and adrenaline. Sure, being around them makes you feel like your heart is doing somersaults, but once that excitement of the chase wears off, they get bored and bounce to the next fun adventure.
3. The mama’s boy
Although it’s great for your guy to have a solid relationship with his mother (hey, how he treats her is how he’ll treat you, right?), you don’t want to be around a guy who’s so dependent on his mom that she does all his cooking, laundry, and reminds him to take his daily vitamins. He’s a man whose growth has been stunted because he relies on her for everything instead of standing on his own two feet. Yikes.
4. The eternal bachelor
A guy who dates a lot but never gets into a serious relationship is a huge red flag, especially if he’s in his late 30s or older. Although you might assume that he’s waiting for the right woman to come along, he might just be a commitment-phobe who never wants to settle down with anyone. In other words, he’s a waste of your time.
5. The walking broken heart
Some guys don’t ever get over heartbreak, no matter how much time passes. They always seem to talk about how brokenhearted their ex left them, to the point where you wonder if they’d get back with her given the chance. It’s like a part of their heart is always closed, so they can never fully commit to a new relationship. These “walking wounded” guys might even compare their new girlfriends to the ex who got away. Ugh. It’s clear that they’re stuck in the past, and honestly? It’s getting old.
6. The victim-card holder
This is the guy who never takes any responsibility for his life. When he doesn’t pay his bills, it’s someone else’s fault, and ditto for when he messes up at work or forgets your birthday. He always whips out an excuse to elicit your sympathy and make you feel sorry for him. Instead of being accountable, he dodges his responsibilities like a child playing hide-and-seek. It’s so annoying!
7. The video game addict
Whenever you want to hang out, this guy’s always stuck playing a video game. He can play for upwards of 12 hours a day, loses sleep over it, and totally zones out so you can’t get his attention even if you try. It’s basically like trying to get a toddler off of their pacifier and it’s childish as heck.
8. Mr. Live Wire
If you find yourself having to give the guy some constructive feedback or criticism, he’ll be quick to freak out. He lacks emotional regulation and throws a hissy fit because he can’t handle being told something negative. It makes it really tough to deal with him—you have to watch every word to prevent him from blowing up and it’s exhausting.
9. The houseplant killer
This guy might have some houseplants in his apartment but they’re all brown and dying. Although it might not seem like a big deal, it’s quite telling. If he’s a grown-up yet he can’t look after any living thing, it shows that he lacks the maturity to be responsible and respect others. He’s quick to neglect things or maybe he’s careless, both of which could show up in other ways the more you get to know him.
10. The career hopper
A guy who jumps from one job to another and can’t seem to hold any career down is clearly plagued by issues. Maybe he keeps engaging in activities that get him fired or he’s always fighting with co-workers. Whatever the case, it’s a lot of drama that points to a lack of emotional maturity. He’s not the poster child for a stable life, that’s for sure.
11. The stonewaller
A stonewaller is a guy who shuts down when he doesn’t get his way instead of expressing his feelings and resolving issues. This can be used as a manipulative tactic to make you feel uncomfortable or force you to cater to his needs. It’s passive-aggressive and makes you feel like you’re playing guessing games with a sulky child.
12. The tantrum thrower
A guy who is quick to lose his temper, whether in road rage incidents or when his food arrives late at a restaurant, is immature because he doesn’t know how to deal with setbacks or challenges, however small. He’s got no chill or patience, which can also point to a sense of entitlement. It’s like he thinks he can steamroll over others and act like a diva to get others to bow down to him. Not this time, buddy.
13. The joker
A guy who makes you laugh is great and all, but it’s not cool if that’s all he ever wants to do. No matter what you’re talking about, he’s always quick to crack a joke or say something witty. This makes it impossible for you to have a serious conversation with him. It seems like he’s only there for the good times and fun, as though he’s trying to escape real life.
14. The selfie snapper
Hey, everyone loves taking pictures of themselves, but this guy is all about himself. He craves attention from people online and in real life to the point where he’ll spend hours trying to get the perfect shot. He whips out his phone multiple times throughout the day, taking those awful gym and car selfies. But ultimately, his phone obsession isn’t the problem—it’s what it says about him. He’s so emotionally immature that he relies on other people’s approval and attention to feel good about himself.
15. The narcissist
The ultimate immature guy who’s never going to grow up is the narcissist. He’s self-absorbed, lacks empathy, and seeks validation to make him feel good. Dealing with a narcissist will drain your energy because you’re spending time with someone who thinks they’re better than everyone else. Ugh. The sad truth is that he’s never going to change, so get out now!
