Why Did He Suddenly Stop Texting Me? 10 Reasons Guys Go Radio Silent

It’s sad but true that the early stages of every new relationship (or situationship) tend to involve a lot of texting. It’s the quickest and easiest way to communicate, and it also happens to be a low-stakes way to get to know each other before (or in between) meeting up in person. That said, it can be pretty confusing when the guy you’re messaging goes from responding regularly to radio silent. What could this mean? Why did he suddenly stop texting you?

  1. He’s dealing with a major change in his lifeFirst things first, you can’t just assume that the reason why he’s disappeared off the face of the earth is because of you. For all you know, he could be dealing with a significant event in his life. Whether his grandma got sick or his mom needs help moving out of her latest boyfriend’s house, you have to give him the benefit of the doubt to start with, as well as some time to come back to you. Unless it’s been months since he was last in touch, of course—because that’s another story.
  2. He moved and didn’t tell you. Another reason why Sonny Jim has decided to abandon ship on the communication front might be because he had to unexpectedly leave the area. In this case, he was probably so busy dealing with logistics that it slipped his mind to pop you a message and let you know—and perhaps so much time has passed now that he thinks it’s pointless getting in touch. I mean, for all he knows, you might not even remember him anyway.
  3. He decided to take a break from dating. Maybe the guy in question has been having some bad experiences with women and just decided to duck out from texting ANYBODY without telling his current texting partners. Let’s face it, guys hate confrontation, so this could be highly likely.
  4. He started dating someone else. I hate to break it to you, but one of the main reasons guys ghost women like there’s no tomorrow is that they’ve become temporarily distracted by someone else—who also wears a skirt. This sucks if this is the case but it’s quite common nowadays in the digital age where every woman is disposable at the click of a button.
  5. His ex is back on the scene. Similarly, perhaps your beau is currently dealing with ex drama that you just don’t know about. In this case, he’s focusing on her instead of you, which makes sense. I mean, women are the multi-tasking gender, not men, right?
  6. He’s not sure whether he’s feeling you anymore. Another brutally honest reason why he might not be texting you is that he no longer feels it between you guys. I know what you’re thinking: how can he just change his mind overnight? But a guy’s ability to change his mind at a moment’s notice is one of life’s great mysteries to women. Sorry!
  7. He considers you an option. If he’s texting you loads one minute and then leaves it for weeks on end, this is usually because he doesn’t see you as a serious romantic prospect. He thinks he can pick you up and drop you when he feels like it because it’s a casual thing to him. Don’t settle for being an opening act when you’re the main event.
  8. He’s texting multiple women. Likewise, he might be texting multiple women and he’s overwhelmed himself for the time being. If he doesn’t see a strong connection with you, he might be classing you as low on his priority list, hence the lack of contact.
  9. His plans have changed. Having said that, he might still like you—you never know. If you guys planned a date at a specific time, maybe he feels bad because he can no longer make that date and he just doesn’t know how to tell you, whether this is because of work or other commitments. Either way, this would be a massive cop-out on his side. Honesty is always the best policy, in my opinion!
  10. You were coming on too strong. Finally, he might have decided to go AWOL because you were being really forward and perhaps he’s not ready for a relationship or any kind of dating commitment right now. This is a common reason and completely not your issue, so don’t feel bad about it if it turns out to be the case. Either way, you’re not really going to know what’s going on with him unless he replies—and there’s a 50/50 chance of this happening. If you follow up and he ends up ghosting you—always remember, you don’t want someone who’s that flaky as your boyfriend anyway. What a lucky escape!
Katie Davies is a British freelance writer who has built a career creating lifestyle content that caters to the modern woman. When she's not sipping tea, shopping, or exploring a new city, you'll probably find her blogging about her fashion and travel adventures at https://trendytourist.co.uk.