Here Are The Answers To Every Question You’ve Ever Had About Butt Stuff

The idea of anal sex might make you cross your legs, or maybe it’s something you’ve always wanted to try with your partner. Whatever the case, it helps to know as much about it as possible to make it a comfortable, pleasurable experience. So, let’s get these weird and gross things out in the open once and for all.

How should you prepare for butt stuff?

  1. You should go to the bathroom first. Before you even think of trying anal sex, head to the bathroom to empty your bowels. This is a must to make you less worried that you’re not clean down there. It also makes the sex feel more comfortable.
  2. You might have to clean more than you think. Okay, this might be gross, but it’s a tip for prepping for anal sex that comes up a lot online. In addition to using mild soap and water to clean the area, you might also want to use your fingers to get any debris out of your butt just to make sure there’s no residue that could end up on the condom.
  3. You need loads of lubeNot just a dab before you start, but TONS of the stuff, and you have to keep applying it throughout sex so that you keep things feeling comfortable while preventing anal tears.
  4. Not just any lube will do. It’s a good idea to experiment with different lubes to see which one feels good. Remember: the anal region is different from the vagina as it doesn’t self-lubricate at all. Choose a lube that’s thicker so that it will last longer and natural so that it doesn’t cause irritation.
  5. Don’t think about using numbing lubes. Otherwise known as desensitizing lubes, these might sound like a great idea to remove any painful sensations you might experience during anal sex, but they’re a bad idea. Pain is a sign that something’s wrong and should make you stop or slow down. If you can’t feel that pain then you might end up with tears or injuries.
  6. You’ve got to watch your diet. In the days before butt sex, you don’t want to eat irritating foods that make you need to use the toilet a lot or that give you constipation. Stick to a diet that’s high in fiber to make your bowel movements regular and help the area clean itself nicely.

Weird things that might happen during the act (so be prepared!)

  1. You might think you have to go poop. The feeling of having to poop is common during anal sex, even if you’ve been beforehand. Some people describe it as feeling you need to poop backward. WTF? Luckily, the feeling tends to pass, so try to relax.
  2. You might actually poop during anal sexOf course, your worst nightmare might actually happen. There’s always the chance that you do end up pooping a bit or seeing traces of poop on the condom, even if you cleaned yourself beforehand. Gross, but hey—if your partner’s going to be freaked out by it then he shouldn’t be going near your butt!
  3. It shouldn’t hurt. It might feel a bit uncomfortable but shouldn’t cause you pain. The trick is for your partner to go incredibly slowly and stay in tune with what you feel. If there’s pain, stop!
  4. You don’t have to stick to doggy style. Doggy style isn’t comfortable or pleasurable for everyone. There are other positions to try to make anal sex feel better for you. An example is doing it on the side as it makes the penis enter your anus in a much more comfortable way and it can also make you feel like you can control the pace a bit more.
  5. You can get a vaginal infection. If the penis touches your rectum and then your vagina, you risk spreading bacteria that can lead to various infections, such as yeast infections. Since your urinary tract is also right there, any bacteria entering it can lead to painful urinary tract infections (UTIs). Make sure you never use the same condom for your anus and vagina in the same sex session and ensure that toys for your vagina don’t touch your butt, and vice versa, to prevent germs.
  6. You might make strange sounds. Just as with vaginal sex, sometimes there’s air trapped in the body that comes out during anal sex or the lubed-up condom makes a weird sound. Whatever the case, prepare for funny and sometimes embarrassing noises. The best thing is to laugh them off and not take things too seriously. Sex should be fun!
  7. His penis might hurt your intestines. If your partner’s well-endowed and moving quite deeply inside you, he might end up in a part of the intestine called the Sigmoid colon. There’s lots of delicate skin in the intestine, so make sure he goes really slowly so as not to injure you. The key is to communicate how you feel throughout the anal sex session.
  8. You might feel sore later. Just like with vaginal sex, you might feel a little tender or sore for a while after sex. Look after your butt by going to the toilet after sex and cleaning up all that excess lube to prevent infections.

Do you need to wear a condom when having anal sex?

Yes to condoms every time! Don’t think that anal sex is somehow safer than vaginal sex. You can still get STDs and STIs, and since anal tissue is so delicate, sex could cause microscopic tears. If your partner’s not wearing a condom, bacteria could end up in these tears, contaminating your blood. Not fun. You don’t want to end up with HPV, gonorrhea, HIV, chlamydia, syphilis, herpes, or any other infection, so make sure to use protection.

Can you get pregnant from anal sex?

While it’s not very common or likely, you could still get pregnant when having anal sex, in theory. That’s yet another good reason to let him wrap up every time. Since his penis is really close to your vagina during anal sex, when he ejaculates, some semen could end up on or inside your vagina. Sure, the pregnancy risk is much lower than with vaginal sex. However, it’s still there and you don’t want to take the chance.

This is another reason condoms are still a good idea when having anal sex.

Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.