The Best Lube Alternatives And Which To Avoid At All Costs

When you’re about to have sex with a partner, sometimes you might notice that you’re not as wet as you’d like to be. You’re in the mood, but your vagina hasn’t seemed to receive the message just yet. That’s where lube comes in handy. However, if you’re not a fan of commercially available products and are looking for some natural lube alternatives, here are some of the best to try (and the worst to avoid).

Is it normal to need lube when having sex?

Yes, it is completely normal to need lube when having sex. In fact, many people find that using lubricant can enhance their sexual experience, whether they are engaging in vaginal, anal, or oral sex. There’s no shame in wanting to get things even wetter down there, after all.

There are many reasons why you might need or want to use lube during sex. For example, you might not produce enough natural lubrication during foreplay (or the lack of foreplay!), which can lead to discomfort or pain during sex. Additionally, certain medications or health conditions can affect your ability to produce natural lubrication. Using lube can also help reduce friction during sex, which can make the experience more comfortable and enjoyable. This is especially true if you’re trying anal sex, where lube should be used with abandon.

It’s important to note that needing or wanting to use lube during sex is not a reflection of your sexual health or ability. In fact, using lube can be a normal and healthy part of sex. If you’re experiencing discomfort or pain during sex, or if you have concerns about using lube, it’s always best to speak with a healthcare professional who can provide guidance and support.

Lube alternatives that could work in a pinch

  1. Coconut oil This is a solid natural lubricant that’s generally safe to use, though you’re better off using virgin coconut oil that’s been unprocessed in any way if you can find it. However, keep in mind that it’s not compatible with latex condoms, as it can cause them to break. This is one of the most popular lube alternatives as it’s safe, effective, and can feel quite luxurious.
  2. Aloe vera gel It’s a natural moisturizer that can work well as a lubricant. However, be sure to use pure aloe vera gel without added fragrances or other additives. Avoid ones with added ingredients or fragrances unless you want your vagina to end up on fire.
  3. Olive oil You probably have some in your kitchen right now. It’s a common household item that makes a good lube alternative when you need one. However, note that it can stain sheets and clothing. It’s also not compatible with latex condoms, so keep that in mind. It can cause skin irritation for some people, as well, so be careful!
  4. Egg whites Admittedly, not all medical professionals are sold on this idea. However, if you’re desperate to get laid and need a little extra help, you should be okay with using egg whites as a natural lubricant. It’s possible that they could increase the chance of bacterial infections, though, so proceed with caution. Oddly enough, some people claim that egg white is super friendly to sperm, so if you’re trying to get pregnant, you might be interested to know that. Again, there’s no science behind that, though, so take it with a grain of salt.
  5. Petroleum jelly Vaseline is a thick and long-lasting lubricant that is safe for most people to use externally. However, it can break down latex condoms and cause infection if used internally. That means you should only use this during foreplay and on the body rather than during penetrative sex. Don’t say we didn’t warn you!

Again, it’s important to note that these alternatives may not be as effective or safe as commercial lubricants, so it’s important to use them with caution and be aware of any potential risks.

Things you should never use as lube, no matter how desperate you are to get laid

  1. Soap or shampoo This shouldn’t need to be said. While soap and shampoo may seem like viable options in a pinch, they can be irritating to delicate tissues and can cause dryness or irritation. They make terrible lube alternatives since you’re pretty much guaranteed to end up with a really nasty infection.
  2. Baby oil It breaks down condoms and causes irritation and infection. They’re meant to keep a baby’s skin soft, but they’re still not gentle enough to go inside your vagina. Just don’t do it!
  3. Spit In theory, this is a great option since it’s “natural” and you’re already exchanging bodily fluids. However, it’s worth mentioning that spit still carries the possibility of spreading STIs. Worse than that, it dries out super quickly and means you’ll probably end up with more irritating friction than smooth sliding.
  4. Cooking oils and other fats Processed vegetable oils, butter, or lard can be harmful to sensitive tissues and can cause infection or irritation during sex. Additionally, they can break down latex condoms, which means you’ll be left without protection from STIs and pregnancy. Not only that, but you’re a living woman, not a deep-fat fryer. You don’t want this in you.
  5. Hand lotion While hand lotion may be moisturizing, it’s not designed for internal use and can cause irritation or infection. Just because men use this to masturbate doesn’t mean you should use it during actual sex.

Why might you want an alternative to standard lubricants?

  1. You’re sensitive to some of the ingredients. If you have super sensitive skin or are allergic to certain ingredients, you might be looking for lube alternatives to give your bits a break from the harshness of commercial products. Sadly, you might find you have just as many problems from the “natural” stuff at home.
  2. You’re worried about the environment. Some people may prefer to use natural or environmentally friendly products, and may therefore seek out alternative lubricants that are made from natural ingredients. It’s an honorable approach, just not always very smart for your nether regions.
  3. It’s more convenient than heading out to the store. If things are getting hot and heavy at home and you’re raring to go, the last thing you want to do is put a stop to the action to head out to the drugstore. Surely there are some alternatives in your bathroom or kitchen that you can use when you’re out of lube, right?
  4. You prefer a more natural approach. Lots of people are into more natural products, whether that’s organic, sustainable, or unprocessed. There’s nothing wrong with looking for a product like this. However, you still need to be careful with what you choose.
  5. Lube is expensive. Store-bought lube can be pretty pricy, so you might seek out alternative lubricants as a more cost-effective option. If you’re already shelling out money on condoms, you don’t want to add lube costs on top of that. Makes sense, but make sure you use something that’s not going to cost you more in doctor’s bills!
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