You know the old relationship trope: Everything’s going great at first, and then suddenly, the guy starts getting weird on you. Even worse, you notice he’s been giving you the same look he has when watching a horror movie. Turns out, this time it IS you. While you might not be guilty of all of these behaviors, it’s likely that you’ve done at least a few of them, and they’re completely freaking guys out. You might want to back off if you want the relationship to last — or have the date even turn into a relationship in the first place.
- Tracking his every move online. He fully expects you to check out his social media profiles. He doesn’t expect you to dig through the past 10 years worth of pictures, friend his exes and like every single post. He wants to date you, not a stalker.
- Showing up when he’s out with friends. If you just happen to be in the same place, that’s fine. If you checked his phone or profile to see where he’s going to meet his friends and then went there, he’s going to be creeped out. You don’t have to check up on him. Trust him or find someone else.
- Wearing strange makeup. While it’s not a deal breaker, if you try a cat eye with some neon lipstick, you’ll definitely get the look from him. You’ll probably get that look from a lot of people if you try that combo. If it’s anything beyond the basics, he’s not going to know what to do.
- Suggesting anything from Cosmo. I’m pretty sure guys are trained from birth to fear anything from Cosmopolitan magazine. If you start suggesting drastic changes to him, the relationship or your sex life from it, he’s going to freak out.
- Talking about your period in detail. This shouldn’t be a big deal at all, but it ends up freaking a lot of guys out. They really don’t want to know how many pads or tampons you went through today or whether you’re not feeling quite so fresh. Volunteering details about female problems is creepy to him. He doesn’t understand and he doesn’t want to.
- Needing pet names immediately. The first few dates aren’t the time to pick out pet names. Pushing him to accept “my cutesy wootsey pookie poo” as a pet name after your second date is really creepy.
- Refusing to eat like a regular person. I get it, you want to seem ladylike at first. Just give it up. Eat like you regularly do. Watching you only eat a few forkfuls of salad is kind of creepy. He’s going to think something’s wrong with you or you’re going to try to make him diet next.
- Overanalyzing him. You’re not his shrink, so don’t try to be. It’s incredibly weird for a guy to have his girlfriend give him a detailed analysis of why he’s feeling a certain way or why he needs to change.
- Talking about your sex life before him. He knows you’ve had sex before him. He might even ask with how many people. What he doesn’t want to know is how good it was, what positions you tried, and what freaky thing your last ex did. That’s creepy no matter what gender you are.
- Going out with his friends on your own. If you’ve just met his friends and the relationship is new, it’s not the time to go behind his back and make plans with his friends. This creeps guys out because they think you’re either trying to take away their friends or you’re trying to dig up dirt on him.
- Never disagreeing with him, ever. At first, he’ll love this. Eventually, it’ll dawn on him that something’s wrong. Most guys aren’t looking for a Stepford wife. It’s okay to fight. You don’t have to fight about everything — have your own opinion sometimes.
- Having no life of your own. It might seem sweet that you’ve dedicated your life to him, but this will just creep guys out. It’s strange if you don’t have your own friends, hobbies and places to be. Have your own life outside of him – it’ll make your relationship better.
- Demanding responses to your texts. If he doesn’t respond immediately, he could be busy. Sending 10 more texts demanding a response to your first is just creepy. Wait a little while. If he doesn’t respond, ask him about it in person later. He might not have received it or maybe he was being a jerk. Either way, repeated texts don’t accomplish anything other than being creepy.
- Needing to be by his side 24/7. Don’t get me wrong. He’s flattered you want him that much. Just remember, he does have his own life too. Getting pissed when he has to work, wants to spend time with his friends, or has to do things with his family isn’t good. Being needy is a great way to creep a guy out quickly.
- Wanting to get married after just a few dates. If it’s mutual, that’s great. If marriage hasn’t even come up yet and you’re pressing him for a ring, you’re not just going to creep him out, but you’ll definitely drive him away. Give the relationship a little time to get serious before demanding marriage.
- Saying you want to have kids with him too soon. Much like the marriage issue, telling him how eager you are to have his kids in the initial phase of the relationship is incredibly creepy. It just sounds like you’re trying to trap him. Kids can wait until you’ve actually had a chance to get to know each other.
- Getting close to his family before it’s serious. Unless he introduces you to his family, don’t try to meet them on your own. Guys will be seriously creeped out if he finds out you’re talking to his mom or hanging out with his sister before you’ve even been on a handful of dates.
I think guys have every right to be creeped out by these things. Even I’d be freaked out if a guy did these to me. Be calm and watch out for the look.