21 Annoying Things Optimistic Women Put Up With

21 Annoying Things Optimistic Women Put Up With ©iStock/teksomolika

When you’re a chronically optimistic woman, realists and pessimists are always on your ass about being too hopeful and positive. So what if you prefer to see the best in every situation? While they’re generally just being obnoxious and should leave you alone, they occasionally do have some valid points. When you’re overly optimistic, you’re setting yourself up for some serious annoyances, like these 21 daily struggles:

  1. You’re always running a little bit late. You tend to not account for traffic or the possibility that there might not be any good parking, as you generally think the drive will be a standard easy one and you have plenty of time.
  2. People call you naïve. You’re not naïve, you just prefer to see the best possibilities. It sucks that people feel the need to insult you for trying to be positive. You’ll deal with negative circumstances when and if they actually arise, not before.
  3. People are never paying you back for crap. You always assume that if you pick up the tab or chip in for gas that those people will return the favor down the road. Unfortunately, they hardly ever do.
  4. Your phone is regularly dying on you. You have faith that it can hang on a little bit longer.
  5. You put all your eggs in one basket. You don’t really see the need for back up options, and that can leave you in some crappy situations when things don’t go as you anticipated.
  6. You get accused of living in denial. Having hope for the future isn’t living I denial, it’s actually a necessity. If the world was 100% pessimists, would anyone even try to accomplish anything or just give up before they started?
  7. You run out of gas more than anyone you know. You always think your car can make it!
  8. A job search is an extreme emotional roller coaster. You get way too excited for every job post you like, every phone call you receive, and every first and second interview you nail. You see yourself excelling at your new gig before an offer is even made, and you get very depressed every time the job doesn’t end up being yours.
  9. You fall for guys that are totally wrong for you. You see the best in men and believe they can be the greatest versions of themselves. Despite your faith in them, they end up being jerks and letting you down.
  10. You get in over your head in the kitchen. Why should the fact that you’ve never ever tried paella stop you from trying to make it on your own? You feel like you can handle any recipe, even with mediocre cooking skills and discount store kitchen equipment.
  11. Your intuition is always in question. People are always encouraging you to question your gut because, well, they think your gut is too optimistic. You can’t stop trusting your intuition, no matter what anyone says.
  12. Negative people are always killing your vibe. Why are there always naysayers and negative Nancys EVERYWHERE??
  13. You get burned by friends. You put a lot of faith in your friendships and that doesn’t always work out in your favor. You don’t like to treat people with suspicion, but sometimes that’s necessary to protect yourself.
  14. People think you’re being fake. This isn’t as act. You’re actually just a genuinely positive person.
  15. You have half-finished DIY projects all over your apartment. They all seemed so quick and easy on Pinterest! You get overly optimistic about your DIYing abilities and forget that the blogger you got those plans from has years of experience and thousands of dollars in equipment that might make it a little bit easier for her.
  16. You give people chances that don’t deserve them. You’re a big fan of second and third chances, because anyone can turn their crap around. Unfortunately, people take advantage of this quality and you end up getting hurt.
  17. Apartment hunting is a nightmare. You put in an offer or application and can’t help but start considering the place yours! You’re already decorating it for the holidays in your mind when the realtor calls to break your heart, again.
  18. You commit to too many responsibilities. You sometimes think you can do it all or that commitments will be less time consuming then they are. You’re regularly looking at the time thinking, “Damn! I can’t believe how long this is taking!”
  19. You buy way too much food and booze for every party. You think everyone is coming and will appreciate how much time and money you’ve spent putting this party together (they aren’t and they won’t).
  20. You set yourself up for disappointment. Planning for the best possible outcome to pan out is definitely setting yourself up for some harsh disappointments. You know the sting of being let down all too well.
  21. You don’t have a plan for when things go south. You know logically that things won’t always go your way, but you still don’t really plan for that happening. And when things are bad, you can be overly hopeful about things turning around to the point of not being very proactive. You shouldn’t give up your hope or positivity, but having a backup plan is the best way to make sure you really do get the happy future you’ve been picturing.
Holly Harris is a freelance writer, full time student, and mommy to a toddler sass monster. In her (nearly nonexistent) free time, you can find her lifting something heavy in her home gym or chugging vodka sodas with friends. She contributes to several other sites, including Elite Daily.