21 Signs You’re Better Off Without Him

21 Signs You’re Better Off Without Him ©iStock/lechatnoir

You really like him, we know. Maybe you even love him (or think you do). However, it’s pretty clear to anyone with eyes that he’s not right for you. No matter how much you want to be with him or how much you wish things would work out, it’s not going to happen. It’s time to admit to yourself that you’re better off without him and leave him in the dust.

  1. He’s still on Tinder. And he was “last active” 3 hours ago. He claims he’s also interested in building something real, but he’s too busy swiping to actually do that.
  2. You’re rarely his plus-one. He won’t take you to the party but he’ll booty-call you after. You’re good enough to get him laid when he’s had a few drinks at his work party, just not enough to go along with him.
  3. Everything else is a bigger priority than you. His boys, his job, his mom, his dog………….. you. Yep, you’re better off without him. There’s someone out there who will actually give a shit!
  4. He doesn’t do anything to make you feel special. How hard is it to get a girl flowers? If he doesn’t care if you feel desired or appreciated, he’s not worth your time of day.
  5. He’s unambitious and has no future. If he doesn’t feel good about himself, he can’t be good for you. You’re better off without him because you’re going places and he’s not.
  6. It’s been weeks and you’re nowhere near relationship territory. Trying to figure out where his head is at is a headache. Let him sit and stew on his own. See ya!
  7. It’s been months and he’s not saying “I love you.” And in a few more months, you’ll still be in the same place. If you’re looking for love, you’re not going to find it with him.
  8. He’s not clean. Showering is a must-have, not a nice-to-have. If this grown man doesn’t value basic hygiene, it goes without saying that you’re better off without him.
  9. The sex is terrible. No foreplay, no rhythm, no connection, no orgasm. Ugh, it’s not even worth shaving your legs for, that’s for sure. No thanks, dude.
  10. He’s hooking up with other girls, or flirts as if he wants to be. If a guy wants to date other women, you should let him. The right guy for you won’t be interested in other women because he’ll recognize what he has with you.
  11. He’s warm with you in private but acts like you’re his buddy in public. You’re not his secret friend. There’s a difference between keeping your relationship private and keeping it secret. If he’s trying to hide you away, that’s a serious problem.
  12. He’s never on time. Punctuality, or lack thereof, is a great indicator of how considerate someone is in general. Your time is valuable. If he doesn’t see that, he doesn’t deserve any of it.
  13. He needs to borrow money. Awkward. People go through hard times, sure, but if he’s a deadbeat who wants you to be his personal bank account, that’s a problem.
  14. He drinks way too much. As if that weren’t bad enough, you have to deal with limp dick too. Girl, you’re better off without him. Trust us on this.
  15. He stays out way too late ALL the time. If he still lives to party, he’s not ready for a girlfriend. Let him stick to his kid stuff.
  16. He cheats. And we’re not talking about poker. You deserve someone who can and will be faithful. If he can’t, he can f**k off.
  17. He’s cheap. If he doesn’t think you’re worth it, he’s not worth it. You don’t need to be wined and dined because you can pay your own way. However, if he’s selfish and refuses to so much as buy you a drink, that’s a problem.
  18. He lies. Saying he’ll be there in 5 minutes when he’s still 10 min away is okay; saying he’s at work when he’s actually throwing back brews at a bar is not.
  19. He’s unreliable. If he’s not there for you when you’re upset or when you need something, what’s the point? You’re so much better off without a guy who can’t be there for you. If he slacks on the little stuff, where will he be when the big stuff happens?
  20. He’s weird about his phone. Guys who have good intentions don’t cover their phones when they get a text.
  21. His friends pity you. Ick.
Halle Kaye is the author of the insightful, inspirational and hilarious dating guide for women, "Maybe He's Just an Asshole: Ditch Denial, Embrace Your Worth, and Find True Love!"