9 Questions You Wish You Could Ask The Guy Who Ghosted You

The ghosting phenomenon has become all too common within the world of dating. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the term, “ghosting” is when a guy you’re dating all of a sudden disappears and leaves without a trace. He stops texting, calling, and acknowledging you in general. When this happens, you’re left with a million thoughts and an unending list of answered questions. You just want to wrap your head around exactly what happened so you can put your mind at rest. Even though he probably wasn’t worth it, it still makes you wonder. Here are nine questions you wish you could ask the guy who ghosted you.

  1. Why do you still like my stuff on Instagram? The thing with technology these days is that it makes it extremely difficult to cut someone off completely when they’re no longer in your life. It seems they’ve disappeared from every aspect of your life except social media, and the worst part is that they’re STILL liking your posts, but not actually talking to you. Not exactly sure how that logic works in their head, but it tortures you to see them pop up in your news feed, but not your text conversations.
  2. Why couldn’t you have just been honest with me? In the end, honesty is the best policy. The guy will seem like a lot less of a loser if he just explained what happened. Yes, you’ll probably think he’s still a loser, regardless of the reason he gives you, but at least we’ll have some peace of mind and a sense of closure.
  3. Were you seeing someone else? The one assumption we dread to know is that he actually started liking someone else and chose her over you. Although we hate to hear that this could be the actual reason, but we still want to know.
  4. At one point did the tables turn? As you sit and replay every single interaction with him in your head, you try hard to find that warning sign or shift where you should have known that something was up. You want to know that exact moment when things took a turn for the worst, where you should have just cut things off yourself.
  5. Did you ever actually like me? We want to know that there were real feelings involved for at least some brief period of time instead of just, “I was bored”. It hurts so much more when you like him and he didn’t feel the same way.
  6. What made you change your mind? You know how girls have that checklist? You know, where they completely write someone off after discovering one big flaw or deal breaker? Well, that’s not just a girl thing. Guys most likely have a list like that, too. You just want to know exactly what the deal breaker was this time.
  7. Was it something I said? Maybe there was a bad fight and you said something that he didn’t want to hear. Maybe you said something you didn’t mean and he took it the wrong way. If that’s the case, it should have been communicated.
  8. Did you ever think of apologizing? Whether it was a short fling or several months of dating each other, an apology would still be nice. We’re humans and we have feelings and they do get hurt. Whatever the reason may be for ghosting you, we would hope that they at least have some strand of moral code that makes them feel a little guilty for just leaving you high and dry.
  9. Do you regret it? The past is in the past and we all make mistakes, but we hope that he at least doesn’t regret talking to us in the first place (even if we may regret it). We hope that he at least enjoyed our company during the time that it lasted.
Lindsey is a Digital Advertising Professional and Freelance Writer based in New York City. In her spare time, she enjoys running, traveling, and drinking ridiculous amounts of coffee. Follow her on Twitter @lindseyruns