9 Reasons Dating The Smoking Hot Guy Is Totally Overrated

Obviously physical attraction accounts for a lot when it comes to finding love, but there’s a difference between a guy who’s moderately handsome and one who’s so hot that you don’t know what to do with yourself. If you end up dating one of the latter, you should probably be prepared for the downsides — because despite what you may think, there are a few…

  1. He knows he’s hot. Because he’s aware of how gorgeous he is, it makes him feel entitled to anything. He may have an inflated ego and a misguided thinking that you’ll put up with his crap simply because he’s a prize. He’s never afraid that you’ll break up with him if he does anything wrong because he’s sure there are hundreds of girls who’ll do anything to be with him.
  2. You’ve officially become invisible when you’re together. All eyes are on him and nobody notices that he’s with you. For the few who have noticed,  you can tell they’re wondering why such a hot guy like him is with someone as average as you.
  3. He constantly gets hit on wherever you go. It doesn’t matter that you’re clearly on a date and he’s holding your hand, women never fail to do a double take to check him out, and some even go as far as flirting with him even in your presence. What’s wrong with people?
  4. Other women are jealous of you, hate you, or both. It’s annoying how you’ve become every other woman’s number one enemy number one just because you’re dating a hot guy. You become the subject of public scrutiny and ridicule, even though the only thing you’ve done is hook up with a super attractive man.
  5. Random fights become a part of your life. Sometimes, you just can’t shrug off people’s rude comments about you and your relationship because you hear them way too often. You know it’s not worth stooping into their level, but everyone has their limits, and you reach yours often.
  6. You’re never really sure if you can trust him. Not that he’s done anything wrong, but because he’s got so many other options, you feel insecure sometimes and worry that he might look for better. If that’s not the case, you’re worried about all the other women you know are hitting on him when he’s not with you.
  7. You become paranoid as hell. When he cancels on a date, forgets to call you, or doesn’t spend as much time with you as before, you don’t believe him for his reasons. You always assume that it’s because there’s someone else, even if you don’t have any proof. You struggle to believe your instincts because you’ve been eaten alive by your fear that he’ll leave you for someone more attractive than you.
  8. You try to keep up with him. However, your efforts always fall short. You do your best to look attractive and be on his level in terms of attractiveness, but you end up looking like a try-hard copycat. The fact is, he’s with you because of who you are, not because you try to be like him, so snap out of it.
  9. You let him get away with a lot because he’s hot. Regardless of the kind of crap he pulls, you justify them and make excuses for him. You overlook his mistakes and shortcomings and sugarcoat them sometimes. Come on — you’re better than that.
Maine Belonio is a twenty-something mom and writer who has a penchant for coffee, long distance running, Tolkien, Switchfoot, and Jesus. Find her broken, honest, and brave musings at mainebelonio.com.