9 Things That Change When You Stop Caring About Your Relationship

9 Things That Change When You Stop Caring About Your Relationship ©iStock/Constantinis

When a relationship goes sour, things can go from bad to worse quickly, and you start to wonder why you’re even still together. The romance is long gone, all you do is argue and nothing you do seems to be good enough. In other words, you’re over it, and once you get to that point, everything changes.

  1. You stop caring. You don’t care about what he’s doing, what’s happening between you, and the future of the relationship. It used to make you feel sick when you fought because you just wanted to be happy with him again, but now, you don’t really feel anything at all.
  2. You don’t fight back. When he insists on arguing over everything, you don’t even have the energy or desire to engage anymore. You’ve had the same disagreements so many times and nothing ever gets solved, so why bother?
  3. You become spiteful. You’ve tried to make things work and to fix your issues, but he doesn’t seem to be on the same page, which pisses you off more than anything. What’s his problem? Until you figure it out, you start making his life that much more difficult by giving him attitude or just outright ignoring him, which not only doesn’t solve your issues, it just makes them worse.
  4. You dread his calls/texts. Communication becomes irritating because you don’t feel the need to be with him — or even talking to him — 24/7 anymore. In fact, it’s more of a nuisance these days than welcome contact, which doesn’t bode well.
  5. When you’re together, you’d rather be anywhere else. Making plans to see him just isn’t as exciting anymore. In fact, you’d rather do your own thing. You might be rolling solo more often, but at least you’re not arguing with him constantly.
  6. You find other priorities. Finding happiness and satisfaction elsewhere is something you start to embrace. The guy you invested your time and energy in no longer deserves your attention, so you’ll find something (or someone) that does.
  7. You mentally prepare for the breakup. You know that no matter what, things just aren’t working out. You don’t have the energy or the desire to try and fix things and you’ve pretty much started to resign yourself to a breakup… you just have to work up the nerve to end it.
  8. You passive aggressively push him to end things. You don’t want to come right out and end things, at least not yet, and it’d be a whole lot easier if he did it first. You drop hints here and there about your relationship being over, but he just doesn’t seem to get the hint, which only annoys you more.
  9. You walk away. When you finally take some time to reflect on the relationship and your life as a whole, you know you’ve got to get your act together and move on from this crappy situation, both for yourself and for him. You know you deserve better, and you’re ready to find.
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