25 Affirmations To Help Heal Your Heartbreak After A Breakup

There’s nothing like having your heart shattered into a million pieces by someone you loved and trusted to make you feel like the world is ending. Breakups happen to all of us, but the emotional impact they can have on your overall well-being can be devastating. The good news is that your heart will heal eventually, and you’ll come back stronger and more resilient than ever. The bad news is that this process takes time, and while you’re going through it, you basically want to die. Thankfully, affirmations can help heal your post-breakup heartbreak and restore your sanity.

If you’ve never tried affirmations before, it may feel weird at first. Repeating positive mantras can seem alien or even a bit cringeworthy, especially if you usually practice negative self-talk. However, by finding ones that resonate with who you are and your current situation, and repeating them daily, you’ll find them truly transformative.

  1. I am resilient and capable of healing. You can get knocked down, but you always get back up again.
  2. I deserve a love that is kind, respectful, and reciprocated. You should accept nothing less.
  3. My value is not determined by this relationship. Single, coupled up, married — none of these change who you are as a person at your core.
  4. I am allowing myself the time and space to heal. There is no deadline by which you have to be back to your old self. Give yourself the grace to move through this naturally.
  5. I trust my journey and know that better things are coming. Everyone has their own timeline, including you. Embrace your unique path, knowing it’ll lead you right where you need to be.
  6. I am whole all by myself, and my happiness comes from within. You don’t need anyone else to complete you — you’re already whole.
  7. My feelings are valid, and it’s okay to mourn the loss of the relationship. It doesn’t matter what happened between you and your ex; every single emotion you’re experiencing is valid and important. Let yourself feel them completely.
  8. Every experience is teaching me something valuable. This isn’t a failure; it’s an opportunity for evolution and growth. Grab it with both hands.
  9. I am strong enough to rise from this and build a happier future. You may feel weak right now, but you’d be amazed at the fortitude you possess within. Know that it’ll carry you through.
  10. I will not lose myself in the process of healing; instead, I will rediscover who I am. You may feel like you don’t know who you are anymore without your ex, but you’re the same wonderful you that you’ve always been. She’s right there waiting for you.
  11. I am giving myself permission to grieve and to grow. Don’t try to force yourself to move on when you’re not ready. Allow yourself this space.
  12. I am surrounded by love and support from friends and family who care for me. No matter how alone you feel, you have a circle of people who love you and who have your back. Lean on them.
  13. I am choosing to focus on the positives in my life and what I can control. Pessimism may be your natural instinct right now, but you can see the bright side if you look hard enough — it’s out there.
  14. I trust the process of life, and I am open to new beginnings. The sadness of one chapter coming to a close should lead to excitement for the next chapter yet to be written.
  15. My heart is open to healing and welcoming love when the time is right. Breakup affirmations are about maintaining an open mind and heart when it comes to rediscovering love. Maybe that’s next month, or perhaps it’s next year. When love comes your way, you’ll be ready for it.
  16. I am embracing this time to rediscover and nurture myself. While your relationship saw much of your attention focused on another person, now it’s time to focus on yourself. She deserves your love and attention.
  17. I will learn and grow from this experience, emerging even stronger. Another reminder that this opportunity will lead to the emergence of a bigger, better, brighter you.
  18. My worth is not defined by a relationship, and I am enough as I am. Breaking up doesn’t mean you are less worthy or valuable. It simply means this wasn’t the right situation for you. This is one of the most important affirmations you can repeat to yourself after a breakup.
  19. I am embracing the journey of self-love and self-care. Learning to love yourself is the greatest gift you could ever give yourself.
  20. I am hopeful and excited for the future and the possibilities it holds. Looking toward a brighter future should fill your heart with hope and encouragement. You have so much that’s waiting for you.
  21. My healing is my priority, and I am deserving of time and patience. This is the time to focus on processing all of your experiences and feelings about them in your own time. Don’t allow anyone to rush you.
  22. Every step I take, no matter how small, is a step towards healing and growth. The small victories matter; celebrate them.
  23. It’s okay to not be okay; I am giving myself the grace to feel and heal. You’re allowed to have bad days, weeks, or even months. They will pass. You will rebound.
  24. I am rediscovering my strengths and embracing my uniqueness. Perhaps your relationship led you to lose sight of the things that make you so special. Now’s the time to get reacquainted with them.
  25. I am capable of building a future that is full of love and happiness. And this is exactly what you will do. Of all the breakup affirmations on this list, perhaps this one is the most inspiring.
Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill